Tipping hostess of NYE party

[Anonymous]

What is the protocol here? If we are invited to a fancy NYE party, should we pay the hostess a tip?

How do we determine how much $$$
?

[Anonymous]

You’re a guest? Bring a hostess gift. Tipping would be beyond weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re a guest? Bring a hostess gift. Tipping would be beyond weird.

Definitely this. Bring a gift. Wine or chocolate or flowers would be nice.

[Anonymous]

You mean the woman who owns the home? That's not a tip - you would NEVER give them money. You bring a hostess gift - wine, champagne, chocolates, flowers, cookies, cocktail napkins, etc.

[Anonymous]

What??????

[Anonymous]

Please tell me this is a troll

[Anonymous]

I mean, in this day and age in the US, we are probably heading in that direction.

[Anonymous]

OP are you from here or where are you from? Are you from the past? This is fascinating.

I was watching a BBC show from victorian times and the house servants loved it when they helped out visitors (like at a ball) because they got tipped! That's beyond weird. Also in India you tip the servants that the employers are (presumably) paying anyway (obviously not enough).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean, in this day and age in the US, we are probably heading in that direction.

Yeah, this is gauche but I can also see it being very appreciated by some hosts. I have seen this done within the family where someone will give $100 cash to the host to thank them for providing the food. If you don't know the person well though, it could be taken as an insult.

I guess OP could do it by handing them a bottle of wine or chocolates with a card with an Amex gift card inside, so it would be a gift. Definitely don't call it a tip!

[Anonymous]

"Hostess" in the Japanese sense (escort/entertainer)?

Yes, you tip.

[Anonymous]

OMG NO. What are you talking about? Where did you hear that this was a thing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Hostess" in the Japanese sense (escort/entertainer)?

Yes, you tip.

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[Anonymous]

Good God.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean, in this day and age in the US, we are probably heading in that direction.

Yeah, this is gauche but I can also see it being very appreciated by some hosts. I have seen this done within the family where someone will give $100 cash to the host to thank them for providing the food. If you don't know the person well though, it could be taken as an insult.

I guess OP could do it by handing them a bottle of wine or chocolates with a card with an Amex gift card inside, so it would be a gift. Definitely don't call it a tip!

Families obviously do this sort of thing all the time but it’s not considered a tip and it’s usually from one family member with money helping out because they can do so easily.

[Anonymous]

Give us more information about the party. There are a lot of factors that determine how much one should tip. What is the location, dress code, menu, number of attendees? How well do you know the hostess? How many people are in your party? Is it catered? Are there staff working?