Deep Betrayal (not an affair, not a spouse)

[Anonymous]

First of all, yes I am in therapy. I am having a lot of trouble dealing with the severe betrayal trauma inflicted on myself and my children by someone we all trusted. The fallout of this betrayal is lifelong, severe, and filled with loss of relationships within my family. I am angry beyond anything I've ever felt before, but also feel guilt for not protecting my family better. The damage is done, and there is no going back, and I have to learn to live with it, but it is the hardest thing I've ever dealt with as it has taken such a huge toll on my children's lives. I wish I could go back in time and not meet this person.....

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, OP. I've experienced something similar, I think, where not having met a person would've led to a much easier, happier outcome (at least, from all that I can see). And yet, we learn from all our experiences, good or bad or bits of both.

I'm proud of you for seeking help and support as you go through this, and you WILL get through it. It may never be how it used to be, but it can be okay, even if it isn't okay right now. Your children will see you work through it and will be stronger in the end. There are no guarantees in relationships. Sometimes, people betray you. It's part of having relationships, and while it's unfortunate that your kids are affected by this, it's an opportunity for them to learn how to let go, move on, and heal. They will likely continue to need these skills, however hard it has been to acquire them now.

I wish you the best of luck untangling from this person and moving forward in a way that's healthier for you and your family. I believe you will find a way to take the good from this and detach from the rest. Leave the jerks with themselves and move forward without looking back. May you find happier days ahead.

[Anonymous]

If you want more sympathy and/or advice, you're going to have to be more explicit about the circumstances. Otherwise it's just vague-posting.

[Anonymous]

Therapy is the best thing for all involved.
Best of luck.

[Anonymous]

OP you are not alone.

Sending hugs

[Anonymous]

You seem to have....issues. Just be careful that your strong reaction isn't negatively impacting your kids. This betrayal probably isn't as big as you've made it out to be in your head.

[Anonymous]

It’s an anonymous board. There’s a huge difference in replies depending on whether you’re talking about someone molesting your kids or someone who made a promise they didn’t deliver on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you want more sympathy and/or advice, you're going to have to be more explicit about the circumstances. Otherwise it's just vague-posting.

Some people will offer sympathy and/or advice without the poster being explicit about the circumstances--imagine!

OP, I am so sorry that this happened to you and your family. You can't undo what has occurred, but you can do the best you can to prevent more of it. Take deep breaths and move forwards.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you want more sympathy and/or advice, you're going to have to be more explicit about the circumstances. Otherwise it's just vague-posting.

Some people will offer sympathy and/or advice without the poster being explicit about the circumstances--imagine!

OP, I am so sorry that this happened to you and your family. You can't undo what has occurred, but you can do the best you can to prevent more of it. Take deep breaths and move forwards.

OK. You're responding to an attention-seeker who might not even be real.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you want more sympathy and/or advice, you're going to have to be more explicit about the circumstances. Otherwise it's just vague-posting.

Some people will offer sympathy and/or advice without the poster being explicit about the circumstances--imagine!

OP, I am so sorry that this happened to you and your family. You can't undo what has occurred, but you can do the best you can to prevent more of it. Take deep breaths and move forwards.

OK. You're responding to an attention-seeker who might not even be real.

And you're here, policing the board like it's your job. We all have our hobbies.

[Anonymous]

OP, you need yo give us some details if you want us to contribute something constructive.

[Anonymous]

Troll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you want more sympathy and/or advice, you're going to have to be more explicit about the circumstances. Otherwise it's just vague-posting.

Some people will offer sympathy and/or advice without the poster being explicit about the circumstances--imagine!

OP, I am so sorry that this happened to you and your family. You can't undo what has occurred, but you can do the best you can to prevent more of it. Take deep breaths and move forwards.

OK. You're responding to an attention-seeker who might not even be real.

And you're here, policing the board like it's your job. We all have our hobbies.

Hello OP.

[Anonymous]

So my guess is a family member molested all the kids and nobody in the family believes it and/or blame OP and their kids to cover up.
What say, OP?

[Anonymous]

It's good you're all in therapy.
And try not to spend too much time in if only you can't change the past.