What are the five most important traits for a spouse to have?
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Anonymous
| I’m curious to know what everyone thinks the most important traits when picking a spouse are. You can’t predict everything in life, but what kinds of things signal that someone will be a good partner? |
Anonymous
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1) open mindedness. Willing to listen to another point of view
2) humor (the same as mine) 3) cognitive flexibility. The ability to shift plans as needed 4) likes to hug and touch and cuddle outside the bedroom (this may be particular to me) 5). Likes dogs. |
Anonymous
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Intelligence
Loyalty Kindness Patience Health |
Anonymous
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Ethics
Hygiene Executive functioning No addictions Sense of humor |
Anonymous
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Integrity
Flexibility Emotional intelligence Curiosity Positivity |
Anonymous
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Emotional intelligence
Good sense of humor Capable of self-reflection Flexiblity Patience |
Anonymous
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Kindness
Generosity Amiability Intelligence Above par social skills |
Anonymous
| I used to think it was kindness or humor or self awareness but after 20 years I think it’s just that you just have to give a f*** about your spouse consistently. It’s harder than it seems. |
Anonymous
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What I tell my kids to look for in a partner:
Responsible Accountable Loyal Empathetic Generous (especially emotionally) |
Anonymous
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Matching views on:
Career drive Fiscal responsibility Fitness Sex Children and parenting |
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Kindness
Intelligence Hardworking Funny Good emotional regulation |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
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Good communicator
Kind Not an addict Good sense of humor Smart with money |
Anonymous
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Competence.
That’s it. That’s the only one. |
Anonymous
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In no particular order:
1. Loyalty 2. Humility (can say sorry) 3. Attraction (both attracted and attractive to you) 4. Hardworking (either employed or at home) 5. Loving and kind |