DD belittling sibling’s voice I suppose out of insecurity
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Anonymous
| I have two sixteen year olds, both very bright. One of them is a bit more academic than the other, if you will, and is taking lots of IB and AP classes, high scores, honors everything. Their sister is also brilliant but just in other ways, and so her grades aren’t as hot (she has tutors, it’s under control, don’t worry!) and her classes are more on level. I guess this makes her feel insecure, almost like she isn’t good enough. As a result she’s been mocking her sibling’s voice, doing a “Valley Girl” -ish accent and imitating them. Now, her sibling does have something of a “Valley Girl” -ish voice and I’d imagine they find this hurtful. I’ve told her to knock it off but it’s just not working. Should therapy be the next step? |
Anonymous
| Therapy over some minor sibling rivalry? Maybe you need therapy. |
Anonymous
| It’s not unusual for siblings to mock each other. |
Anonymous
| You need to sit down and clearly explain that there will be immediate consequences for this behavior. We don’t mock people we love. I would insist that she atone for this behavior by doing the other kid’s chores, cleaning their room, giving them their dessert, giving them half their allowance each time, etc. When we hurt others’ feelings we must make up for it. If that didn’t work I’d take their phone and give them a flip phone, because immature people don’t get a real phone, I’d ground them because their judgement is too poor to allow them out of the house, etc. Don’t ever let one of your children be bullied by another person. |
Anonymous
| Instead of therapy put your foot down. |
Anonymous
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It took you about two sentences in to call your kids brilliant and go into detail on one of their high level classes. It’s probably you that’s making her feel inferior. They are both doing well in school so stop talking about it and you know you do.
If you have to talk about classes speak to them individually. |
Anonymous
| You need to stop making up storiies. |
Anonymous
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You and dad need to tell that child of yours to stop. You know - parent & discipline.
It’s giving mean girl - bully -jealous. |
Anonymous
| Why is one just “sibling” with “their/they” pronoun and the other is she/sister? Are you going to come back and say the vague one is transgender or something with the trickle truthing to make the mean sister seem meaner? |
Anonymous
That's literally not going to improve the situation at all. She isn't a mean girl she's a teen who believes her parents favor her siblings and based on ops paragraph she might be right. Punishing her will only reinforce that idea . I promise you sibling likely makes comments that are less than stellar that op doesn't notice. |
Anonymous
Excuses. |
Anonymous
Says the mom of a 5 year old. |
Anonymous
| You give her consequences. You allow or encourage it. |
Anonymous
| You need to stop comparing them. It will stop. |
Anonymous
+1 NP |