College kids reverting to helpless teens at home

[Anonymous]

Are you experiencing this? My kids are very capable and on the ball and handle their lives just fine away at college. Freshman and senior. But then they come home and they act like they are fresh out of the womb and know nothing about anything or how to do anything and I hear "mom mom mom" all day long. Maybe it's just me.

[Anonymous]

Time flies. You only have a few decades left of it. Take it.

[Anonymous]

Did they not have to do things when they were in HS? Laundry? Cook for the family? I imagine they would know how to do things if they have done them for years. If not, this is the time to teach them!

[Anonymous]

No, but I feel like I am constantly being asked for money. Like, you get an allowance and when you're at school you have to buy your own basketball game tickets. But somehow, even though the allowance has continued, I am being asked to pay. I'm just rolling my eyes. But it is nice to have them home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, but I feel like I am constantly being asked for money. Like, you get an allowance and when you're at school you have to buy your own basketball game tickets. But somehow, even though the allowance has continued, I am being asked to pay. I'm just rolling my eyes. But it is nice to have them home.

Allowance? Aren't they 18 years of age?

[Anonymous]

My kid is independent at school, but likes to be "pampered" at home. For example, kid and I will be watching a show together and if I get up to go to the bathroom, kid asks for a snack. Kid will put laundry in my basket, etc. When kid was a freshman, I overheard during a Facetime, kid tell roommate they can't wait to get home to be pampered. I suspect that is a very normal feeling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, but I feel like I am constantly being asked for money. Like, you get an allowance and when you're at school you have to buy your own basketball game tickets. But somehow, even though the allowance has continued, I am being asked to pay. I'm just rolling my eyes. But it is nice to have them home.

Allowance? Aren't they 18 years of age?

Only since college. She's in sports and doesn't have time for a job. And I have continued it over the break because she has to return to school Jan 2 and will have a lot of bills to pay since dorms aren't open and there is no meal plan. It's my effort at working on her budgeting skills. Plus, she just turned 18 a couple of weeks ago. She's hoarding her summer work money for first and last month's rent on an apartment which she's hoping will be in her near future.

[Anonymous]

My kids live off-campus at their colleges and are completely capable of doing everything for themselves. However, it's nice to be pampered a bit while at home. I enjoy making breakfast for them sometimes, or doing other small things for/with them. Happy to have them home.

[Anonymous]

Thus far, no. They’re taking care of their bathroom, not grumbling that the dishwasher is currently broken and washing dishes without being asked, cooking their own eggs in the morning, and they did their laundry before coming home. The only thing they have said is that they are happy they don’t have to cook all their own meals. I’m impressed at how they’ve become independent, and I’m so glad to have them home.

[Anonymous]

My kid just asked me what to do for his sore throat, which, I admit, I loved. He’s gotten sick a few times at school and never needs anything. Says he’s fine. So, I was surprised and delighted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, but I feel like I am constantly being asked for money. Like, you get an allowance and when you're at school you have to buy your own basketball game tickets. But somehow, even though the allowance has continued, I am being asked to pay. I'm just rolling my eyes. But it is nice to have them home.

That’s on you. Why are you giving your college aged kids an allowance? They are capable of working and earning their own money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid is independent at school, but likes to be "pampered" at home. For example, kid and I will be watching a show together and if I get up to go to the bathroom, kid asks for a snack. Kid will put laundry in my basket, etc. When kid was a freshman, I overheard during a Facetime, kid tell roommate they can't wait to get home to be pampered. I suspect that is a very normal feeling.

Yup. Happens here and I know it's temporary and dote on her. She's involved in a million things at school and works hard to get good grades and manages everything so well. I give her a break where she doesn't have to think about or really do anything for the couple of weeks she's home. I consider it one of her Christmas presents.

[Anonymous]

SNL did a whole thing on this. I think about it all the time when they’re home.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ZmWH1F-caM8

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you experiencing this? My kids are very capable and on the ball and handle their lives just fine away at college. Freshman and senior. But then they come home and they act like they are fresh out of the womb and know nothing about anything or how to do anything and I hear "mom mom mom" all day long. Maybe it's just me.

Like guests at a resort?

I loved spoiling them for a week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, but I feel like I am constantly being asked for money. Like, you get an allowance and when you're at school you have to buy your own basketball game tickets. But somehow, even though the allowance has continued, I am being asked to pay. I'm just rolling my eyes. But it is nice to have them home.

Why don’t they have their own earnings?