Who “married up” in your relationship?
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Anonymous
| Or do you think you’re about at the same level? How old are you? |
Anonymous
| Almost every one marries the best they could get. They would have gotten better if they could. |
Anonymous
| Who thinks this way |
Anonymous
| Both of us, in different ways. |
Anonymous
| My friend from a middle class is married to a trust fund baby. She makes double what he does. Is that "married up?" |
Anonymous
Same |
Anonymous
| My ex wife thought I married up in pretty much every way. |
Anonymous
| i married up in smarts, he married up in looks (this sounds so classic). |
Anonymous
| I'd say the same level. There are some things that would make me the one who married up and there are some that would make him be the one. |
Anonymous
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From Anne Lamott: "A good marriage is where both people feel like they're getting the better end of the deal."
https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/105290-a-good-marriage-is-where-both-people-feel-like-they-re |
Anonymous
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I married up socially. I am from a blue collar background. My parents did eventually graduate college doing part time / evening programs after I was born, but I am the first generation to go to college full time. My husband’s grandparents are college graduates. His mom was an editor at a major publisher, dad was a college professor, chair of the department.
He married up financially, though. He’s been underemployed pretty much all the time we’ve been married, after he got his PhD. I am making multiples of what he does. I’ll probably get a bigger inheritance too - my parents were very smart (and somewhat lucky) with real estate. |
Anonymous
| Definitely me (the woman) |
Anonymous
In our 50's. Cumulatively, we are at the same level, equal in most, I'm up in few and he in other few but overall same league. |
Anonymous
This^. |
Anonymous
| I met my spouse in college so it feels like we more helped each other up than anything else. |