If a woman doesn't want to ...

[Anonymous]

... move in with you, marry you or have kids with you but claims to love you and be committed to you, is stringing you along in case she finds a better deal while she is still in her 20's or 30's?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:... move in with you, marry you or have kids with you but claims to love you and be committed to you, is stringing you along in case she finds a better deal while she is still in her 20's or 30's?

Of course.

Don’t complain. It will literally never be better.

[Anonymous]

Yup 👍🏽

Trust your intuition on this one OP.

[Anonymous]

What if she is sending gifts to your family, inviting you to her family events and throwing you birthday parties?

[Anonymous]

If you want incompatible things, it's not working out. It doesn't matter if she genuinely loves you or not.

[Anonymous]

I have one cousin and one aunt (not parent and child duo) who refused to get married and yet were faithful to their significant other, without even living with them. My aunt lived in NYC and my cousin lives in Europe. French cousin has a kid with her long-term boyfriend. My mother's good friend from the UK does live with her long-term boyfriend but is not married to him.

So... it depends whether you trust this person or not. But on DCUM, which is very socially conservative, of course it's going to look fishy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:... move in with you, marry you or have kids with you but claims to love you and be committed to you, is stringing you along in case she finds a better deal while she is still in her 20's or 30's?

Not necessarily. But if you want different things then leave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What if she is sending gifts to your family, inviting you to her family events and throwing you birthday parties?

So what?

If you want to get married and have kids and that is not what she wants, then break up.

[Anonymous]

Yes, but give it a workout while gettin’ is good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have one cousin and one aunt (not parent and child duo) who refused to get married and yet were faithful to their significant other, without even living with them. My aunt lived in NYC and my cousin lives in Europe. French cousin has a kid with her long-term boyfriend. My mother's good friend from the UK does live with her long-term boyfriend but is not married to him.

So... it depends whether you trust this person or not. But on DCUM, which is very socially conservative, of course it's going to look fishy.

My friend had a 30 year relationship with a man, starting in her 20's. They never married, never had kids and never lived together. She was faithful, he was not.

[Anonymous]

Not stringing you along probably. Just doesn't want marriage or kids which is a choice some women make.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yup 👍🏽

Trust your intuition on this one OP.

+1

[Anonymous]

Demote to FWB.

[Anonymous]

Have you proposed and set a marriage date?

[Anonymous]

What do you want? You cannot read other people's minds. Focus on what you want. If you and your partner cannot meet somewhere where you feel you are comfortable and they say they are comfortable, move on.