How to build a hobby/ passion?

[Anonymous]

I have a 10 year old who is quickly becoming more independent. For the past 10 years, she was my “hobby” in that I wanted to dedicate most of my non-work hours to hanging out with her. I know that she’s moving towards a time when friends and activities will take up most of her time, and I’m feeling a little lost. I know it’s pathetic. Making me feel worse is that I don’t have anything I’m dying to do. My job is interesting, so I have that. But I really don’t have many interests outside of work and family. Putting effort into developing those interests also feels depressing. I want interests to be obvious, not something I have to hunt for. In my 20s and early 30s, socializing took up most of my time. Now I’m just….lost.

[Anonymous]

Bum

[Anonymous]

What did you do for fun before kids?

[Anonymous]

Op here. I socialized like many 30-something’s. That was my main hobby.

[Anonymous]

It doesn’t really matter what you pick. Try lots of things until you find something at least tolerable. It doesn’t have to be a passion. Stick with it for at least awhile. Rinse and repeat.

[Anonymous]

Are you sporty? Or artsy? What types of things do you like to do?

[Anonymous]

Join a running/biking/hiking club, take a painting/pottery/guitar or piano class, go to a wine tasting or join a book group. Volunteer.

Keep trying things until you find your passion

[Anonymous]

What did you like to do as a kid? Or what did you always want to try but couldn’t because of time/money/access/availability?

In middle age, I returned to a hobby I had as a kid. It gives my inner 12-year-old the biggest kick to just…go and indulge. (I have a much bigger allowance now. Not to mention a driver’s license instead of a bike. Preteen me is in heaven.) Other friends have said the same.

Remember, you’re taking a pottery class, not a blood oath. If you don’t like it, try something else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What did you like to do as a kid? Or what did you always want to try but couldn’t because of time/money/access/availability?

In middle age, I returned to a hobby I had as a kid. It gives my inner 12-year-old the biggest kick to just…go and indulge. (I have a much bigger allowance now. Not to mention a driver’s license instead of a bike. Preteen me is in heaven.) Other friends have said the same.

Remember, you’re taking a pottery class, not a blood oath. If you don’t like it, try something else.

This. I did the same. 15 years ago I went back to something I did as a kid, tweaked a little bit. It’s now a key part of my life and the source of some wonderful friendships.

[Anonymous]

Even reading,baking,or crafting a little each week can help you find something you enjoy.

[Joyful]

Try small new things, like a class or hobby group. You don’t need a passion immediately

[Anonymous]

Wut do you like

[Anonymous]

Lots of people start back to fitness if they had dropped off. I also returned to a pre kid hobby and expanded it by adding equipment and taking classes.

But there are plenty of opportunities to be involved. Like volunteering at school and with their sport and attending school and sporting events and being active in PTA and Booster clubs.

[Anonymous]

Work a New Year's resolution around it. I decided a few years ago that I wanted to re-learn how to knit after not doing it since I was a kid. I bought some nice yarn, chose a small and simple project to begin with, and now knitting is a source of joy and satisfaction in my life.

Choose what you want to do, challenge yourself, and see what happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What did you like to do as a kid? Or what did you always want to try but couldn’t because of time/money/access/availability?

In middle age, I returned to a hobby I had as a kid. It gives my inner 12-year-old the biggest kick to just…go and indulge. (I have a much bigger allowance now. Not to mention a driver’s license instead of a bike. Preteen me is in heaven.) Other friends have said the same.

Remember, you’re taking a pottery class, not a blood oath. If you don’t like it, try something else.

This. I did the same. 15 years ago I went back to something I did as a kid, tweaked a little bit. It’s now a key part of my life and the source of some wonderful friendships.

Me again. I also second what people are saying about just trying out some new things. There are lots of one-time classes, workshops and "intro to" events to explore. Have fun figuring out what clicks for you and what doesn't.