What Should I Do Today?

[Anonymous]

Hi, A very close friend of mine (since childhood) had invited me to her Sister’s baby shower this afternoon.
She got permission from the host and we were set to attend together.

She just texted me five minutes ago and told me that she has a norovirus and is unable to attend.
She told me to go ahead and enjoy myself at the shower and she will be at the next get together hopefully.

My problem?
Aside from her sister (whom I barely know!) I won’t know anyone at this shower.
I had planned on catching up w/my friend but now that I know I won’t know a soul I would feel uncomfortable just not showing up at all.

I am assuming the host still expects me to attend.

Should I show up but stay minimally?
Say maybe a half hour?
Or should I drop off my present then leave?

Or simply not show up at all but send my best wishes??
I likely will not do the latter as this seems very very rude.

Your thoughts??

[Anonymous]

*uncomfortable showing up alone

[Anonymous]

I don't think you're obligated to go, you're there as the plus one of someone who isn't going and you wouldn't have been invited on your own. She was probably just trying to be nice telling you to enjoy yourself.

[Anonymous]

I skip it.. and let your friend know.

[Anonymous]

I am assuming that you already bought a baby gift and if that is the case then I would make an appearance to give the gift.
Then I would just play it by ear, if you do not know anyone there and feel awkward you can leave after having something to eat or drink.
But you might just strike a conversation with someone and prefer to stay!

[Anonymous]

Do whatever you want to do

You don’t need validation
Your answer is the correct answer

[Anonymous]

Thx everyone for weighing in, since I did already have a baby gift I went ahead to the shower and was surprisingly greeted personally by the Sister as well as some of the other guests who were in attendance.

They had a lot of delicious catered food and I ate while chatting with the other guests.

I am glad I went, it gave me an opportunity to meet some new people.

I would advise anyone else in this situation to go ahead and make an appearance.
It’s fun to talk to different people while also savoring some good food as well as play some fun games too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do whatever you want to do

You don’t need validation
Your answer is the correct answer

WOKE

[Anonymous]

Your friend handles any awkwardness with the hostess. Ideally, your friend should call the hostess, explain and say neither of you are coming.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thx everyone for weighing in, since I did already have a baby gift I went ahead to the shower and was surprisingly greeted personally by the Sister as well as some of the other guests who were in attendance.

They had a lot of delicious catered food and I ate while chatting with the other guests.

I am glad I went, it gave me an opportunity to meet some new people.

I would advise anyone else in this situation to go ahead and make an appearance.
It’s fun to talk to different people while also savoring some good food as well as play some fun games too.

+1 good for you! I’m proud of you. You sound like a considerate and caring person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thx everyone for weighing in, since I did already have a baby gift I went ahead to the shower and was surprisingly greeted personally by the Sister as well as some of the other guests who were in attendance.

They had a lot of delicious catered food and I ate while chatting with the other guests.

I am glad I went, it gave me an opportunity to meet some new people.

I would advise anyone else in this situation to go ahead and make an appearance.
It’s fun to talk to different people while also savoring some good food as well as play some fun games too.

You handled this really well OP. It was polite of you to go and I'm glad you ended up enjoying yourself somewhat too.