Is it normal for siblings to be hyper jealous of you?

[Anonymous]

Is it normal for siblings to be hyper jealous of you? I am asking because my sister came visit our newly built custom home and the jealousy on her face couldn't be more obvious, and almost seem hateful. We are very low-key on how much money we make, I guess it was a shock to her to see our new house? We saved for years and years and lived in a tiny crappy place before this, she lives in a lower cost-of-living city and bought a nice big house years ago. She doesn't seem the least bit happy for me that we finally bought our forever home.

[Anonymous]

So she didn't say anything negative, just had a look on her face?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So she didn't say anything negative, just had a look on her face?

she did not say anything negative, but the look on the face says it all, it's like she was trying very hard to pretend to be happy for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it normal for siblings to be hyper jealous of you? I am asking because my sister came visit our newly built custom home and the jealousy on her face couldn't be more obvious, and almost seem hateful. We are very low-key on how much money we make, I guess it was a shock to her to see our new house? We saved for years and years and lived in a tiny crappy place before this, she lives in a lower cost-of-living city and bought a nice big house years ago. She doesn't seem the least bit happy for me that we finally bought our forever home.

I think it's abnormal for you to take such obvious delight in this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it normal for siblings to be hyper jealous of you? I am asking because my sister came visit our newly built custom home and the jealousy on her face couldn't be more obvious, and almost seem hateful. We are very low-key on how much money we make, I guess it was a shock to her to see our new house? We saved for years and years and lived in a tiny crappy place before this, she lives in a lower cost-of-living city and bought a nice big house years ago. She doesn't seem the least bit happy for me that we finally bought our forever home.

I think it's abnormal for you to take such obvious delight in this.

Trust me, there is no delight, zero.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So she didn't say anything negative, just had a look on her face?

she did not say anything negative, but the look on the face says it all, it's like she was trying very hard to pretend to be happy for me.

So…you are basing this on a look on her face only? Do I have that right?

[Anonymous]

You're reading a lot into a "look on her face". We get it, you now think you're better than her and think she should be incredibly jealous of you. This post does NOT make you sound like a good person.

For all you know, she could have that look on her face because she hates something to do with the house and thinks it was a total waste of money on your part.

[Anonymous]

My experience is that people are terrible about judging my feeling from the look on my face so if I were you I would not put much credence into what you think her feelings are.

You should take her polite comments as her true feelings unless you have objective evidence otherwise. It’s likely you assume she is jealous (maybe because you would be if you were her?).

[Anonymous]

Oh OP, this is not a good look for you.

[Anonymous]

Where did you get hyper jealous from this?

[Anonymous]

Eh. I mean, when my brother brought me to the Victorian mansion he and his wife had just closed on, and we stood in the kitchen that had an island literally bigger than my entire kitchen, surrounded by the eight bathrooms, I looked straight at him and said, "Oh f**k you!" and we both laughed.

I live in a tiny rundown 1 bedroom that I can't leave. So am I jealous he has space? Yes. Am I jealous of him? Not really.

[Anonymous]

OP I get it.

But my mother is the issue.

She was never happy for any of her kids living a nicer life than she did.

[Anonymous]

Referring to a "custom home" is a bit much, OP. Looking for a slight fight much?

[Anonymous]

Sibling jealousy is so common. My mil and her sister have had that dynamic forever and it's hard to watch because it's a whole little dance of palpable resentment and slight condescension between the two of them. But personally, as a non-jealous type, houses are my trigger. I get so jealous of really beautiful homes (I have a nice but very normal house, not anyone's dream) I realize it's wrong and stupid but I get major house envy. So I'd give your sister a break if that's an isolated event.

[Anonymous]

From what you had to say, it's impossible to know what your sister thinks about you and your house.

I'm guessing from what you wrote that you wanted her to be surprised that you stealthily saved money and hoped that she would be impressed with your house.