Not sure I’m going to make it.
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Anonymous
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I’m hosting 20+ of my in laws for Thanksgiving. My teens are being sullen. I’ve run out of things to talk about w my in laws. More things I could share but I don’t want to out myself further.
I’m currently hiding in the bathroom. Please pray that I make it through this day. |
Anonymous
| Find a good playlist and turn up the volume. |
Anonymous
| Good lord have a drink or two girl! Run out and get something fast if you don't have any, before the stores close. |
Anonymous
| Why are teens always sullen when we hope they will be most helpful and cooperative? |
Anonymous
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Drinks, good music, stop caring about anyone else’s emotional state. Everyone is responsible for their own emotions today, and everyone has an obligation to pull their share of the social load.
Let your teens be sullen. Sullen teens are a classic Thanksgiving Day staple. Time for you to relax as much as possible, don’t sacrifice yourself today. If there’s no conversation left, play a verbal game around the table. |
Anonymous
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You are a superhero for hosting OP.
I had great memories as a child of big Thanksgivings and I am sure there was family drama going on I was never aware of. You are doing great just by having people over and putting out food. If I were you I’d have a beverage and enjoy the dry turkey and boring relatives 🦃 |
Anonymous
| So sorry, OP. That sounds like a nightmare! Get yourself some nice chocolate and adult beverages and hide out in your car or something like that. |
Anonymous
The same reason OP is hiding in the bathroom. It can be a stressful day for everyone. |
Anonymous
| Sockpuppets!!!! |
Anonymous
| Hiding from stressors only gives them more power. |
Anonymous
| You need to stop expecting that you are somehow supposed to provide conversation. You're not. You agreed to feed them. That's all. Dial down your engagement, do your own thing, and focus on the meal. That's what I do, and I never thought I needed to do anything else. |
Anonymous
| You could just plan a meeting spot with teens (corner of backyard) then run for the car and go have a blast somewhere - grab snacks and see a movie or go on a walk. Let the guests fend for themselves. Your kids come first! |
Anonymous
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I'm so sorry. I know the feeling.
I literally "cancelled" Christmas a few years ago with less than 48 hours notice. I was on the floor in my bedroom crying at the very thought of it all, and my DH said "I'll call all of them. It's alright." You are in it now, unfortunately -- but all you have to do is get through it. And you don't have to get through it perfectly, hell, you don't even need to get through it gracefully. Watch the clock. Hide in bathroom when you must. Know that an end is in sight. And DO NOT do it again. I sure as hell won't. We are going out -- only DH and I, no in laws -- today (as we have for a few years now). They invite us to their place, and we decline. I ain't doin' it. There was backlash at first, but now they tolerate it. Do what you need to do to protect your peace. And give the teens some room to be sullnen -- they don't like it either, lol. |
Anonymous
Oh stop. I doubt there are any sockpuppets here. Get a life. |
Anonymous
| Turn on the Westminster dog show - always something to talk about |