Terrible Behavior While in School Uniform

[Anonymous]

Over the past couple of years, I've noticed that almost every time we see students from one of the DC privates out in public in their uniforms their behavior has been downright appalling. Last weekend, while shopping at a local store, my child and I were in the same row with two students from this school. One of them answered a cell phone and started to mock and belittle what seemed to be another student. The two students who were in the store together kept laughing to each other and were egging each other on, encouraging the student with the cell to lie to the other student that had called about where they'd meet up later, to tease/ harass the caller, etc. so that the student that was calling them would go to the wrong place and would get stood up. What I found most troubling about their behavior this time wasn't just that they were so mean and awful, to teh point that it was painful to even overhear what they were doing, but that it turned out that one of the student's parents was in the same row, overheard the students, and congratulated them on teaching the other student a lesson! I was hoping that there was some context that I didn't know about, but this isn't the first time we've seen students from this school being rude and hurtful.

Which brings me to my question/ point - don't the schools try to encourage their students to behave well - at least while in uniform? It's such a poor reflection on the school to repeatedly see students from this school behaving so badly, that though this school has a strong academic reputation, it's difficult to have much respect for the school after seeing the kind of students it's producing.

[Anonymous]

I'll bite. If you're going to start this, at least have the balls to name the school.

[Anonymous]

Fine. Tried to keep it gender neutral on purpose because the point is more the bad behavior while in uniform, not bashing a particular school, but if it really matters, the school, unfortunately, is NCS.

[Anonymous]

Well they must have been pretty young because NCS stops wearing uniforms after 6th grade I think.

[Anonymous]

Don't know if it would make a difference but maybe you could call the school and report what you wrote here. That's what would happen when someone complained about students' behavior to a school I went to.

[Anonymous]

this is terrible behavior? I'm not getting it ...

My brother and friends got caught smoking pot on the CapCrescent in their uniforms --- their St Johns (military school) uniforms WITH THEIR NAME TAGS ON!!! This was 20 years ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:this is terrible behavior? I'm not getting it ...

My brother and friends got caught smoking pot on the CapCrescent in their uniforms --- their St Johns (military school) uniforms WITH THEIR NAME TAGS ON!!! This was 20 years ago.

This is hilarious!

Thirty years ago my brother and his friend were busted throwing small rocks at cars........from my parents backyard. They police showed up at my parents front door and my brother got in big trouble. Thank God no one was hurt.
Kids can be such idiots.

But seriously, I would call the school and inform them of the behavior. I know some schools are particularly sensitive about this right now and will want to know.

[Anonymous]

More than terrible behavior -- this is classic bullying, an issue that's at the forefront of the news these days. I'm sure the school would want to know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Over the past couple of years, I've noticed that almost every time we see students from one of the DC privates out in public in their uniforms their behavior has been downright appalling. Last weekend, while shopping at a local store, my child and I were in the same row with two students from this school. One of them answered a cell phone and started to mock and belittle what seemed to be another student. The two students who were in the store together kept laughing to each other and were egging each other on, encouraging the student with the cell to lie to the other student that had called about where they'd meet up later, to tease/ harass the caller, etc. so that the student that was calling them would go to the wrong place and would get stood up. What I found most troubling about their behavior this time wasn't just that they were so mean and awful, to teh point that it was painful to even overhear what they were doing, but that it turned out that one of the student's parents was in the same row, overheard the students, and congratulated them on teaching the other student a lesson! I was hoping that there was some context that I didn't know about, but this isn't the first time we've seen students from this school being rude and hurtful.

Which brings me to my question/ point - don't the schools try to encourage their students to behave well - at least while in uniform? It's such a poor reflection on the school to repeatedly see students from this school behaving so badly, that though this school has a strong academic reputation, it's difficult to have much respect for the school after seeing the kind of students it's producing.

The fact that a parent condoned this behavior seems to indicate there is indeed more to the story. That being said, I am not a fan of "tit for tat" nor is it ever a constructive way of handling bad behavior and bullying. The girls wear a school uniform in the Lower School which is grades 4-6. I would definitely call the school because NCS has long been a huge advocate of anti-bullying and the school wants to be informed whenever there are cases of bullying The school actually gets involved first had. Is has had it's fare share of "mean girls" but the school was the first in the country to actually hire a faculty member to address the issue. I would call either the Head of the lower school or the Dean of Students. Just sincerely tell the administrator specifically about the one incident (because it is upsetting and specifics are always better than general references), and that you felt compelled to tell the school. Maybe it was a good thing that the girls were in uniform, because it is clear which school

I have to say, I use NCS girls to babysit my daughter all the time. And, have been touched by how friendly and kind the girls whom I've used are. In this day-in-age of "mean girls," it has comforted me to see how incredibly kind these girls have been. While I understand there is has been a mean-girl issue at all schools which has been further enabled by the internet, there are definitely "good eggs" out there still. I might add, that I recently found out the first NCS girl I used for babysitting has received recognition from the school for her positive peer leadership and role modeling at the school... and she has recommended other girls to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Over the past couple of years, I've noticed that almost every time we see students from one of the DC privates out in public in their uniforms their behavior has been downright appalling. Last weekend, while shopping at a local store, my child and I were in the same row with two students from this school. One of them answered a cell phone and started to mock and belittle what seemed to be another student. The two students who were in the store together kept laughing to each other and were egging each other on, encouraging the student with the cell to lie to the other student that had called about where they'd meet up later, to tease/ harass the caller, etc. so that the student that was calling them would go to the wrong place and would get stood up. What I found most troubling about their behavior this time wasn't just that they were so mean and awful, to teh point that it was painful to even overhear what they were doing, but that it turned out that one of the student's parents was in the same row, overheard the students, and congratulated them on teaching the other student a lesson! I was hoping that there was some context that I didn't know about, but this isn't the first time we've seen students from this school being rude and hurtful.

Which brings me to my question/ point - don't the schools try to encourage their students to behave well - at least while in uniform? It's such a poor reflection on the school to repeatedly see students from this school behaving so badly, that though this school has a strong academic reputation, it's difficult to have much respect for the school after seeing the kind of students it's producing.

The fact that a parent condoned this behavior seems to indicate there is indeed more to the story. That being said, I am not a fan of "tit for tat" nor is it ever a constructive way of handling bad behavior and bullying. The girls wear a school uniform in the Lower School which is grades 4-6. I would definitely call the school because NCS has long been a huge advocate of anti-bullying and the school wants to be informed whenever there are cases of bullying The school actually gets involved first had. Is has had it's fare share of "mean girls" but the school was the first in the country to actually hire a faculty member to address the issue. I would call either the Head of the lower school or the Dean of Students. Just sincerely tell the administrator specifically about the one incident (because it is upsetting and specifics are always better than general references), and that you felt compelled to tell the school. Maybe it was a good thing that the girls were in uniform, because it is clear which school

I have to say, I use NCS girls to babysit my daughter all the time. And, have been touched by how friendly and kind the girls whom I've used are. In this day-in-age of "mean girls," it has comforted me to see how incredibly kind these girls have been. While I understand there is has been a mean-girl issue at all schools which has been further enabled by the internet, there are definitely "good eggs" out there still. I might add, that I recently found out the first NCS girl I used for babysitting has received recognition from the school for her positive peer leadership and role modeling at the school... and she has recommended other girls to me.

I can't imagine any context in which this kind of behavior could possibly be condoned!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:this is terrible behavior? I'm not getting it ...

My brother and friends got caught smoking pot on the CapCrescent in their uniforms --- their St Johns (military school) uniforms WITH THEIR NAME TAGS ON!!! This was 20 years ago.

Pretty horrifying that you don't recognize how bad this is. And while what your brother and his friends did was stupid and potentially self-destructive, they weren't hurting someone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well they must have been pretty young because NCS stops wearing uniforms after 6th grade I think.

And for some reason they're wearing their uniforms to the mall on the weekend...

[Anonymous]

Kids/parents should be aware that wearing tshirts or sweatshirts with he school name or logo emblazoned on them also makes a kid a walking advertisement, good or bad, for a school. I posted elsewhere about that when I was once waiting in line at a convenience store with my young children I heard the STA boy in front of me say to his female companion, in none too quiet a voice, that he didn't know how many times he'd "gotten laid" in his car that week becuase he was "too drunk" to remember.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Fine. Tried to keep it gender neutral on purpose because the point is more the bad behavior while in uniform, not bashing a particular school, but if it really matters, the school, unfortunately, is NCS.

you sound like a troll. I find it hard to beleive that NCS 4th-6th graders are at the mall on the weekend in their school uniforms and without a parent. And that you have seen unaccompanied 4th graders roaming the city multiple times.

[Anonymous]

OP is BS. There is no way that an NCS girl (not to mention several!) would be wearing their uniforms on a weekend. There seems to be a trend of NCS-bashing here lately -- maybe all from one poster, but this post is complete fiction.