Bro Doctor
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Anonymous
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I'm a 52 year old woman, and I just met my new doctor. We discussed my daily routine, including pilates, and he told me about his girlfriend's medical issues and said he'll suggest pilates to her. Kind of strange but OK, he's just making small talk. But at the end of my visit instead of a handshake or a wave goodbye, he punches me in the shoulder. It didn't hurt at all but it was weird.
Does anyone else have a bro doctor and are they professional and competent? I would guess he's a Grandpa Gen Z or Baby Millennial. Should I switch doctors? |
Anonymous
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So late 30s to 40s?
I would go more by where he went to school and trained, his board certifications. He wants to get acquainted first visit. If it offends you ok but I have learned the hard way that after 50 it's time to accept younger doctors so they last. I have had them retire, drop dead, or lose competency due to age. |
Anonymous
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So he was nice, listened to you gave you time to speak. Sounds like a great new doctor to me. Maybe the odd playful punch was a one off give him another shot. Wave first next time. Good doctors are impossible to find. I'd keep him.
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Anonymous
I think older gen Z are in their 20s |
Anonymous
| Worst case/best case: Didn't look at the medical records, and he thought you're around the same age as him |
Anonymous
| Is he a new young doctor? How old does he look? Maybe he's likes you like a friend and is awkward expressing himself. I wouldn't drop him over this at all. |
Anonymous
Truly, internists are the weirdest people. Who would do this?! Mine is odd, too, OP. But if he's otherwise competent and well-credentialed, I'd probably keep him. |
Anonymous
Yes, I find that odd too. |
Anonymous
Sometimes they’re just trying to build rapport. It’s not that deep. If you don’t like him find a new one who you do like/ trust. |
Anonymous
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Over the last decade it has been getting ever more demanding to get into college, and from there more and more difficult - some would say nearly impossible these days - to get into medical school. After that you have to go through another difficult process to get into a track (residency) for your specialty. Anyone who has come through this process is extremely smart and extremely dedicated. There are many national exams that must be passed on the way.
You are lucky to be seeing a a real doctor, a physician. |
Anonymous
This. I'm a nurse and this just sounds like someone who is trying to build a rapport. Some people are just more awkward about it than others. The punch on the shoulder is something I would have cringed at if I'd seen, but I wouldn't write him off. I've unfortunately experienced some pretty awful doctors, so if you felt like he listened and took the time to get to know you, I'd give him a chance. From personal experience, I've found docs in their 30s and early 40s to be quite competent and are often the ones who have the best team approach and are most open to suggestions and input or trying alternative things. Older docs tend to be more disrespectful and stuck in their ways. Not across the board obviously but enough that there is an obvious difference. |
Anonymous
| I'd give him a chance. We've had some really good younger doctors and they've been good. Same as older doctors - some good, some bad. I agree the 30-40's except a rare doctor are the best as they are the ones willing to put in the effort if you have a serious issue. |
Anonymous
| As a patient to a great doctor, I’m sure I have said or done odd things over the years. Hopefully, he hasn’t judged me. People are just people. |
Anonymous
| Who goes to a male GP in their 50s? I can't imagine he has any genuine understanding of any health issues you will be confronting over the next decade. |
Anonymous
| PP I have a gyn for that. I have a GP for staying alive. |