Let DD12 get her hair dyed?

[Anonymous]

DD's hair is a very light blonde. She's been begging for months almost everyday to get her hair dyed a little darker with highlights.
She's usually into something, I buy it or do it, and she falls out of interest fast, and doesn't like it anymore or regrets it.
And dyed hair is a big change, so I'm worried she'll not like it after a few weeks and want her old color back.

Should I allow it or hold off for now?

[Anonymous]

No. Blonde hair made darker looks awful.

[Anonymous]

She can earn the money if she wants this. Hair salon visits are luxuries. I can't believe the money I see my peers dropping on hair and nails for their teenage daughters. Mind boggling.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not. Plus hair dye damages your hair.

[Anonymous]

Do you have a stylist you trust with coloring your hair? if you do talk to them first about how this would work. But that kind of change is probably a long term commitment and expensive so not for a 12 year old.

[Anonymous]

No.

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

My very blond friend dyed her hair black in high school. She loved it until it turned orange (she us box dye). I’d probably let her do the ends at home to see how it looks and how it fades and then decide.

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

I would say no. It’s healthy for kids to want something and not get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My very blond friend dyed her hair black in high school. She loved it until it turned orange (she us box dye). I’d probably let her do the ends at home to see how it looks and how it fades and then decide.

OP- That's what I thought, that it might be too risky with such light hair. Her hair is between a level 9 & 10.

A few of her friends have been getting their hair dyed lighter, but hers is already so light. So she wants to dye hers too, but the only option is darker, which might be too tricky to achieve and not worth it in the long run. So, I'll have to explain that to her after telling her no.

[Anonymous]

I would consider lowlights rather than dye + highlights, as color-depositing dye is less damaging than highlights. See if the stylist has a semi-permanent option, which will fade as it grows out so it's not as long of a commitment.

- Let my kid get 3-week purple dye streaks at about that age. Got it out of their system and hasn't asked about hair dye since.

[Anonymous]

Sure- why not? Hair grows back. I don’t understand parents who try to control every little thing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My very blond friend dyed her hair black in high school. She loved it until it turned orange (she us box dye). I’d probably let her do the ends at home to see how it looks and how it fades and then decide.

Couldn’t she just shave it off and have a crew cut for a few months? Crew cuts on girls are really in right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She can earn the money if she wants this. Hair salon visits are luxuries. I can't believe the money I see my peers dropping on hair and nails for their teenage daughters. Mind boggling.

Ita.