When to raise issues v let them go?

[Anonymous]

I am new to the private school world and wondering how people draw the line of what to raise with the teacher and what to let go.

By way of example, my Kindergartner came home today super disappointed. Apparently the class was going to have a special kind of recess (not a prize or reward, just a kind that doesn’t happen very often in their rotation) — and it was taken away from them because they expressed too much excitement about it. The way he tells it, it was just when it was announced that the kids were excited, and not over a longer period of time (but it’s possible he’s misremembering).

Really, in any event, that seems like an inappropriate consequence for 5-6 year old enthusiasm. My inclination is to let it go (I think we just got a bad teacher this year), but part of me wonders whether to press for a better explanation of how consequences are meted out.

[Anonymous]

If that bothers you will experience a lot of frustration through high school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If that bothers you will experience a lot of frustration through high school.

Op here. That’s a good point too, maybe a good opportunity to level set my own expectations here. I’ll say older kid has a fantastic teacher and I have zero complaints (even when I don’t understand some decisions), so I don’t think I have some impossible standard in my head.

[Anonymous]

I think that it’s reasonable to ask but I also think that kindergarteners are not good reporters and you should go in to the conversation with an open mind.

[Anonymous]

lol that you think his rendition is accurate….wake up, mom. Your kid has a lot of unfairness ahead. Wait until he is tortured with homework!

[Anonymous]

Keep this in mind: you should believe 50% of what he says happens at school, just like his teacher should believe 50% of what happens at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Keep this in mind: you should believe 50% of what he says happens at school, just like his teacher should believe 50% of what happens at home.

+1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am new to the private school world and wondering how people draw the line of what to raise with the teacher and what to let go.

By way of example, my Kindergartner came home today super disappointed. Apparently the class was going to have a special kind of recess (not a prize or reward, just a kind that doesn’t happen very often in their rotation) — and it was taken away from them because they expressed too much excitement about it. The way he tells it, it was just when it was announced that the kids were excited, and not over a longer period of time (but it’s possible he’s misremembering).

Really, in any event, that seems like an inappropriate consequence for 5-6 year old enthusiasm. My inclination is to let it go (I think we just got a bad teacher this year), but part of me wonders whether to press for a better explanation of how consequences are meted out.

It is sweet you care about this and I mean that seriously. Some parents just brush off their kids' feelings. That being said - maybe let this one thing go and if it becomes a better maybe ask the teacher casually but in a friendly way.