Feeling like a job offer will never happen...

[Anonymous]

Spouse was laid off a few months ago and has struggled to find another job despite working hard to beef up skills, practice interviewing techniques and applying to any and all reasonable/semi-reasonable job fits. I know this could describe a lot of people out there right now but I just feel terrible for him. He's made it to a couple of last round selections but the rejections calls just keep coming, they keep choosing the other candidate. We're ok-ish for right now but the blow to his ego has been brutal. He went from what felt like a stable, well paying career to...this. We're both stressed and starting to lose hope. I'm holding down the fort with my job and benefits and he's stepped up with the kid stuff at home but I'm worried about what the future both financially and from a mental health stand point is going to look like. Anyone have any hopeful anecdotes? Words of wisdom? Commiseration?

[Anonymous]

My family is in the same boat. It sucks in the day to day and we don't know when (or even at this point, if) it will end. The financial and mental health pieces are both definitely taking a major hit!

[Anonymous]

I just started nearly the same topic thread about my own spouse's layoff. Solidarity, OP. This sucks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just started nearly the same topic thread about my own spouse's layoff. Solidarity, OP. This sucks.

OP here. I just saw your post, I'm sorry you're going through this too, it really does suck. Like you, I'm trying to be as positive and as supportive as possible but the stress, the financial strain all the bad news rejections are really starting to take a toll. Sending good vibes your way, PP, I hope things start looking up for both of us soon.

[Anonymous]

I’m in the same boat. My spouse started applying for jobs in February, had a flurry of interviews late summer (none worked out), was officially laid off in September, and is trying to reorient their job search for the third time. It’s super stressful.

[Anonymous]

We planned for job loss/savings as it can happen to anyone at any time. It sucks and I hope he finds something soon. My husband just lost his job and we are a one income family. Lots of firings and layoffs right now.

[Anonymous]

Try, I know it can be difficult, to keep positive thoughts circulating in your mind. You can even try affirming it out loud, “The offer is coming soon, I am going to get the job”, before you start the interview process. It is so cliche but try to stay as positive as possible.

[Anonymous]

Took me a year to find a new job. A friend took 7 months. We both found jobs last month!

Went through hundreds of applications between the two of us. Dozens of interviews. So many close calls. Rooting for you!

[Anonymous]

Sending good vives to you all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Try, I know it can be difficult, to keep positive thoughts circulating in your mind. You can even try affirming it out loud, “The offer is coming soon, I am going to get the job”, before you start the interview process. It is so cliche but try to stay as positive as possible.

This has been my go to, but today's rejection was rough on both of us. Thank you for the reminder to stay positive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Took me a year to find a new job. A friend took 7 months. We both found jobs last month!

Went through hundreds of applications between the two of us. Dozens of interviews. So many close calls. Rooting for you!

Congratulations to both of you! Thank you for the words of encouragement, much appreciated.

[Anonymous]

It took my DH almost a year to find a job. I was working but no way we could survive much longer on just my salary. It was a horrible time. Try your best not to let it drive a wedge between the two of you. Make time to go for walks or just to hug each other. Sounds silly I know but fear can be so isolating and as long as he is really trying to find something you are both in this together. Remember that. Best of luck to you and your DH. I know how hard it is.

[Anonymous]

Be glad there’s two of you and one person is still employed. I’m a single parent so my household is dependent on my income alone. If it wasn’t for my kid, I would take myself out of this world. I’m getting close to doing it anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Be glad there’s two of you and one person is still employed. I’m a single parent so my household is dependent on my income alone. If it wasn’t for my kid, I would take myself out of this world. I’m getting close to doing it anyway.

Please please seek help, you are needed, valued, and loved.

988 is the National Suicide hotline. There are resources to help you.

Sending you positive thoughts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Be glad there’s two of you and one person is still employed. I’m a single parent so my household is dependent on my income alone. If it wasn’t for my kid, I would take myself out of this world. I’m getting close to doing it anyway.

Please please seek help, you are needed, valued, and loved.

988 is the National Suicide hotline. There are resources to help you.

Sending you positive thoughts.

+1 OP here...I'm so sorry you're struggling right now. As PP noted, there are resources to help you. You matter, your life matters, your job or lack thereof does not define you. Sending positive thoughts and a big hug your way. Please seek help.