Do you share your salary information with your family?

[Anonymous]

Your parents? Siblings? In laws? Why or why not?

[Anonymous]

No it's non of their business.

[Anonymous]

Why would I?

[Anonymous]

Money was always very secretive in my family. Then my mother died and my father was like "Okay, now that she's dead, here's what I have!" So I have since told my father what I earn. My brother and I don't know each other's salaries. His wife's salary is public info, so I know that.

[Anonymous]

I don't and I don't believe my husband does either.

[Anonymous]

It's a mistake if you do. Learned that the hard way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a mistake if you do. Learned that the hard way.

Why is it such a big deal?

[Anonymous]

Details, no, unless it's part of a family planning discussion.
In general sure.

[Anonymous]

Holy shit, no way! What?

[Anonymous]

My dh shares with his dad because they talk money and investments all the time. I haven’t shared with my mom but I don’t really know why not.

[Anonymous]

I shared with my immigrant mom who was always worrying that we spend too much money and must be living paycheck to paycheck. The spending in question was on kids clothes, toys, and activities and not buying exclusively buying the groceries that are on sale -- not on any actual luxuries. Result of sharing: she now does not worry that we will run out of money, and has moved on to saying that we could buy a much nicer and bigger house (that we don't want and don't need) if we didn't waste so much of our money!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I shared with my immigrant mom who was always worrying that we spend too much money and must be living paycheck to paycheck. The spending in question was on kids clothes, toys, and activities and not buying exclusively buying the groceries that are on sale -- not on any actual luxuries. Result of sharing: she now does not worry that we will run out of money, and has moved on to saying that we could buy a much nicer and bigger house (that we don't want and don't need) if we didn't waste so much of our money!

EXACTLY my husband’s immigrant mom. She is horrified by our modest house and our spending on kid stuff.

[Anonymous]

Nope, nothing good can some from sharing that

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Holy shit, no way! What?

Different cultures do things differently. I was shocked when my Korean-American friend gave her bonus to her parents, but it's part of her culture. My cousin's French husband flat out asked me how much my rent was. I was very taken aback, but answered him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a mistake if you do. Learned that the hard way.

Same. Made the mistake of telling my very MC mom what we make after she kept asking me over and over and it 100% changed our relationship. She now treats me the way she treated / talked about wealthy people when I was growing up (very derisive and resentful). It sucks.