Where to find body double for teen with nightly homework?
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Anonymous
| DD is 17 and is looking for someone to body double with her doing homework in the evenings. She has an executive function coach who she meets with once every 2 weeks but I think it would be great if she could meet someone more regularly. I would pay if the person had some executive function training. There are free or low cost websites but not sure if these are fruitful for a high school student. |
Anonymous
| Local college student? We used to get special Ed majors as babysitters. The department kept a job board. |
Anonymous
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You will need to pay regardless, OP. Babysitters get paid. My friend paid someone on Zoom to "sit" with her ADHD kid so she could complete her homework. The person billed themselves as a tutor, $30/hr?, but their role was mostly babysitting, with occasional EF support and math or grammar facts.
At her high school, there might be some peer-to-peer tutoring available, if it helps her jump-start her motivation. |
Anonymous
| My DH does this thing called focusmate where you are paired with someone who wants to focus for the same period of time you do. Maybe see if there is an option that is child frienly? Or if you coud pair with just a woman? THey don't communicate other than to greet each other and explain their goals for the hour or two and then say after what they got done. |
Anonymous
| Try some of the online tutoring sites. |
Anonymous
| Why would anyone do that for free? |
Anonymous
I think there are two kinds of body doubling. They are body doubling where one person is doing a service for another, and body doubling where two people help each other. My kids do the second kind for each other. They both pay attention better when they work next to each other. I didn't know there was a name for it until recently, but now I see it as some kind of reciprocal body doubling. I think if two kids both felt body doubling helped, and decided to do their HW together over Zoom or something, I can see why that wouldn't be paid. |
Anonymous
Just adding that I have no idea where to find someone for OP. My strategy of having another child would have had to have been started a while ago. |
Anonymous
| Do you think she needs a body doubling service or would mirroring alone be enough for those non-therapy days? I know my local library has high schoolers studying until almost closing. I wonder if going to the library late might be enough, assuming there are other students there studying? It's a cheap solution to try out, at the very least. |
Anonymous
| Someone watching your kid do homework is a babysitter, that’s not body doubling. |
Anonymous
| Can't she ask a friend or acquaintance? |
Anonymous
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Is there a classmate she could work with? Could you sit with her and quietly work on something?
Otherwise, you could hire an executive function coach to meet more frequently or do one of those homework cafe type places (I think StudyPro in McLean offers something like). Alternatively, you could try one of the online ones (or online with a classmate who is a good match for her in this type of thing). Sometimes students find it helpful to work in a quiet space in a library as the other people sort of serve as the body double a bit. |
Anonymous
| OP I know a lot of tween and teen girls who do their homework on FaceTime with a friend. Does your DD have someone she can do this with? If not, you'll need to hire someone. Your EF coach should be giving you suggestions. |
Anonymous
| Body doubling doesn't seem to be the right word for what you're looking for. Body doubling is someone else being there/doing the same thing, but not providing a service. If you're looking for that, then I'd suggest that your child ask friends to do homework together. Or someone in your family works on stuff in the same room as him. It sounds like you want someone to help him with his focus/homework, which is not body doubling. |
Anonymous
| www.focusmate.com. It's been a game changer for me. |