If your kids move out

[Anonymous]

Last Christmas was such a blessing. I actually had all 5 of my kids home, plus my oldest with his wife and their baby, my son with his girlfriend, my daughter with her kids, and even my sister and her kids. The house was full and it was so sweet—lots of noise, laughter, and love.

It reminded me of when my kids were little and Noche Buena was always such a special tradition. Back then it felt chaotic, but now I just look back and smile.

I’m really hoping we can all be together again this Christmas. Having everyone under one roof, even for a few days, is the best gift.

[Anonymous]

If your children have spouses, who decides where Christmas will be celebrated

[Anonymous]

Your kids are adults ..you won’t have a say.

[Anonymous]

I don’t understand the title of the thread and the point of the post.

It doesn’t sound like any of your kids still live at home?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Last Christmas was such a blessing. I actually had all 5 of my kids home, plus my oldest with his wife and their baby, my son with his girlfriend, my daughter with her kids, and even my sister and her kids. The house was full and it was so sweet—lots of noise, laughter, and love.

It reminded me of when my kids were little and Noche Buena was always such a special tradition. Back then it felt chaotic, but now I just look back and smile.

I’m really hoping we can all be together again this Christmas. Having everyone under one roof, even for a few days, is the best gift.

Congrats! That sounds lovely.

We too moved to offering holidays and vacation rentals in various locations, and those who can come do! The adult kids make an effort to see each others families once or twice a year. No one is in the same state.

Communication is key! I don’t mind being point person but sometimes group chats work best and once grandkids are in school doing some rough planning 6-12 mos out works well.

Enjoy those happy moments PP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Last Christmas was such a blessing. I actually had all 5 of my kids home, plus my oldest with his wife and their baby, my son with his girlfriend, my daughter with her kids, and even my sister and her kids. The house was full and it was so sweet—lots of noise, laughter, and love.

It reminded me of when my kids were little and Noche Buena was always such a special tradition. Back then it felt chaotic, but now I just look back and smile.

I’m really hoping we can all be together again this Christmas. Having everyone under one roof, even for a few days, is the best gift.

It is but once they've significant others in life, don't forget that their parents also deserve their gift. Find ways to be fair and empathetic.

[Anonymous]

Lot depends on your house and location. I was at a wedding last week. The parents of bride have a beautiful big home in a rich area and belong to a super fancy country club. Father and Mother outgoing and fun. Kids love them. They are very generous adn everyone welcome and they have cash to spend. The house is like 35 minutes manhattan by train and maybe like a 20 minute ride to airport.

The grooms parents did not manage their money as well they are in middle of no where in a small house in a retirement area with nothing to do. Nearest train over an hour away and nearest airport like two hours away. None of kids grew up there so neighborhood and state mean nothing to them.

Who do you think kids are visting more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lot depends on your house and location. I was at a wedding last week. The parents of bride have a beautiful big home in a rich area and belong to a super fancy country club. Father and Mother outgoing and fun. Kids love them. They are very generous adn everyone welcome and they have cash to spend. The house is like 35 minutes manhattan by train and maybe like a 20 minute ride to airport.

The grooms parents did not manage their money as well they are in middle of no where in a small house in a retirement area with nothing to do. Nearest train over an hour away and nearest airport like two hours away. None of kids grew up there so neighborhood and state mean nothing to them.

Who do you think kids are visting more.

I don’t think this would matter in my family. We often congregate far from trains and airports. No one cares. My family is really close and just want to be together. And my kids have relationships together beyond what us parents facilitate.

OP, that sounds wonderful and I hope you can repeat it often. One of the things I try to do is not be wed to a particular date or period for visits. Instead I aim for the season and if I have to I’ll keep my Christmas decorations up until President’s day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Last Christmas was such a blessing. I actually had all 5 of my kids home, plus my oldest with his wife and their baby, my son with his girlfriend, my daughter with her kids, and even my sister and her kids. The house was full and it was so sweet—lots of noise, laughter, and love.

It reminded me of when my kids were little and Noche Buena was always such a special tradition. Back then it felt chaotic, but now I just look back and smile.

I’m really hoping we can all be together again this Christmas. Having everyone under one roof, even for a few days, is the best gift.

Christmas time is ALWAYS chaotic. No matter the age, specially when you're hosting. Interesting how we forget the moment and look fond at the memories...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lot depends on your house and location. I was at a wedding last week. The parents of bride have a beautiful big home in a rich area and belong to a super fancy country club. Father and Mother outgoing and fun. Kids love them. They are very generous adn everyone welcome and they have cash to spend. The house is like 35 minutes manhattan by train and maybe like a 20 minute ride to airport.

The grooms parents did not manage their money as well they are in middle of no where in a small house in a retirement area with nothing to do. Nearest train over an hour away and nearest airport like two hours away. None of kids grew up there so neighborhood and state mean nothing to them.

Who do you think kids are visting more.

I see your point PP but what you are really saying is that wealth makes a significant difference and while, again, I agree it also makes me sad.
Whether the groom's parents "managed their money as well" is not pertinent here. What is coming through your example is that the wealthier side can afford to position themselves and offer "more" and sadly that is what attracts their children. Wealth wins yet again.