Why do married people flirt with one another?

[Anonymous]

I work in a fairly large company. I’m married and a few times, I’ve had married people subtly flirt with me or with other married people. In all cases over several years it never leads to anything and all participants are happily married. Is the flirting just ego-boosting? Or could there be more?

[Anonymous]

It alleviates boredom. And yes, ego boost.

[Anonymous]

Maybe op’s definition of flirting is too broad.

[Anonymous]

You’re just irresistible, OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I work in a fairly large company. I’m married and a few times, I’ve had married people subtly flirt with me or with other married people. In all cases over several years it never leads to anything and all participants are happily married. Is the flirting just ego-boosting? Or could there be more?

It's fun and nice to know I'm still attractive. BTW I don't discriminate in who I flirt with - men, women, young, old - I don't flirt with mean people. And I'm a happily married middle aged woman - I'd never act on anything.

[Anonymous]

Why does someone think it's a big deal to flirt as a married person?
You sound uptight.

[Anonymous]

My exH cheated on me with other married women at work. No all attractive, most older than me. Married men somehow think it’s “safer” for the family if they cheat with married women. Indeed, he was able to do it in secret for about 5 years none of these women tried to contact me or break marriage
After divorce he started dating single women and is now in a relationship with much younger woman . She’s not one of his APs

[Anonymous]

Attention seeking.
Lack of boundaries.
Lack of respect for themselves and their spouse.
Inability to interact with the other sex without sex .
Immaturity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why does someone think it's a big deal to flirt as a married person?
You sound uptight.

Ah yes! The age old " up tight" I have boundaries or expect civilized behavior and therefore I am uptight.

[Anonymous]

If it doesn’t lead to anything, who cares?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I work in a fairly large company. I’m married and a few times, I’ve had married people subtly flirt with me or with other married people. In all cases over several years it never leads to anything and all participants are happily married. Is the flirting just ego-boosting? Or could there be more?

It's fun and nice to know I'm still attractive. BTW I don't discriminate in who I flirt with - men, women, young, old - I don't flirt with mean people. And I'm a happily married middle aged wom
an - I'd never act on anything.

Why are you so needy?

Why are you incapable of having a pleasant conversation without flirting!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I work in a fairly large company. I’m married and a few times, I’ve had married people subtly flirt with me or with other married people. In all cases over several years it never leads to anything and all participants are happily married. Is the flirting just ego-boosting? Or could there be more?

Low self esteem and immaturity the same types who have work wives and work husbands.

[Anonymous]

cuz we’re married, not dead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Attention seeking.
Lack of boundaries.
Lack of respect for themselves and their spouse.
Inability to interact with the other sex without sex .
Immaturity.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:cuz we’re married, not dead.

This. Marriage is dead. Flirting isn't going anywhere because I have integrity and a kid still at home, but the exchange reminds me that I'm still me and desirable.