Fearing Missed Miscarriage

[Anonymous]

Hi all,

I am pregnant for the second time this year. The first pregnancy resulted in a missed miscarriage at nine weeks. I am now in my ninth week and even though I saw the heart beat just five days ago, I am ridiculously nervous and I can't get another US appointment until next Friday. My RE discharged me and my OB's office won't schedule anything cause they're all booked up. I know, I should just try to relax but it's so hard without the assurance of an US. Ideas?

[Anonymous]

Call ob and say you are bleeding. Or go to Er. I know, not very honest ways, but I would do it after my 3mcs
Gl!

[Anonymous]

Ugh. No ideas or solutions, just sympathy -- and empathy. I am also 9 weeks and completely with you on this one! I'm worried I won't be able to relax until I actually have the healthy baby -- such a different experience from when I conceived our son naturally several years ago.

I had read somewhere that the chance of miscarriage was something like 2-3% after 8 weeks of pregnancy and a strong heartbeat. That would be really reassuring but I can't find similar information on any reputable site (American Pregnancy Association says 70-90% chance of continued pregnancy at 6-7 weeks once heartbeat detected, depending on the type of ultrasound used).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Call ob and say you are bleeding. Or go to Er. I know, not very honest ways, but I would do it after my 3mcs
Gl!

And people wonder why health care costs in this country are so astronomical.

While you're at it, PP, why don't you just call an ambulance to take you there?

[Anonymous]

it's tough, but please don't lie for the sake of getting an ultrasound. that's just obnoxious and that's probably why ultrasound schedules are booked solid all the time. you are probably fine, but if you are not, there is nothing that you can do. obviously it's easier said than done, but just try to relax and think positively. offices can't do ultrasounds just for maternal anxiety or they would be open 25 hours a day, 8 days a week.

[Anonymous]

I can really sympathize, OP, it's a tough position to be in. I had a similar situation. Everything ended up being fine, despite several scares. I strongly recommend finding a way to release the stress--take a walk, go shopping, do some yoga, meet a friend for tea, watch a funny tv show, whatever works for you. Just take it hour by hour and focus on the positive. Even if you want for an u/s right now and saw everything was ok, tomorrow you'll just worry again. I know "relax" is really lame advice, so I don't mean to say you should just forget about your worries. But do find a good way to cope. Going in for more u/s (and lying like the PP suggested) is not a healthy way to go about things and will not assure a healthy pregnancy. I wouldn't start my pregnancy by crying wolf.

[Anonymous]

Thanks, everyone. OP here. I agree with most of you that lying isn't the way to go - definitely not my style but I did call the doctor and explain why I was hoping to come in. Fortunately, they were kind enough to squeeze me tomorrow so we'll find out what happens. I definitely am trying to relax and hate to be this kind of high-maintenance patient, but hey, if security is an option, that's always preferable in my case. I also just hated the idea of continuing on my IM injections for another week if really the fetus had stopped growing. If there's no heartbeat, I would rather just bring the whole thing to an end. Once I get past the point where I miscarried before and then past the first trimester, I think relaxing will be much, much easier.

Even if you don't agree with my thinking, I appreciate you at least trying to understand my position. Wish me luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks, everyone. OP here. I agree with most of you that lying isn't the way to go - definitely not my style but I did call the doctor and explain why I was hoping to come in. Fortunately, they were kind enough to squeeze me tomorrow so we'll find out what happens. I definitely am trying to relax and hate to be this kind of high-maintenance patient, but hey, if security is an option, that's always preferable in my case. I also just hated the idea of continuing on my IM injections for another week if really the fetus had stopped growing. If there's no heartbeat, I would rather just bring the whole thing to an end. Once I get past the point where I miscarried before and then past the first trimester, I think relaxing will be much, much easier.

Even if you don't agree with my thinking, I appreciate you at least trying to understand my position. Wish me luck!

I totally understand, and it's great that you were able to be honest AND get the appointment you needed. Good luck!!!!! I so hope it goes well!!

[Anonymous]

I hope everything goes well for you. I have my fingers crossed! It is really hard and I totally understand what you are going through. Hang in there, trust your gut and don't be afraid to be your own advocate. Don't worry that the office will think you are a high maintence patient. I am sure they have dealt with much worse!!! This is your and your baby's health, so don't be afraid to stand up for yourself and do what you think is right. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Hi everyone - OP here and it was a false alarm. Baby is doing great and for the first time, we got to see it moving all around. Thanks so much for your support and kind words

[Anonymous]

Yeah for you, OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi everyone - OP here and it was a false alarm. Baby is doing great and for the first time, we got to see it moving all around. Thanks so much for your support and kind words

Woo-hoo! Congratulations!!

[Anonymous]

I am so happy to hear that!

[Anonymous]

Congratulations on great news!