Should I say something?

[Anonymous]

My sister is getting married October 4. I'm MOH and wedding coordinator. My sister's friend has now decided she's not coming. The reason her long distance BF ( New Zealand) is now going to be in town. We've told her to bring him. But now that's not enough wants to spend every moment with him alone. I really want to tell her off but probably wouldn't do anything.

[Anonymous]

While what the BFF is doing sucks ..
Nothing for you can do or say.

Does your sister know? Is the BFF part of the bridal party ?

Ehh.

[Anonymous]

Unless she’s in the wedding party I wouldn’t care.

[Anonymous]

That is REALLY long distance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That is REALLY long distance.

Sure it is. But does she need to ditch her friend over it. They can take a break from banging each other for a few hours. But yes not something Id bother with even if she's in the party. Focus on your sister and making it work with what you got

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That is REALLY long distance.

Sure it is. But does she need to ditch her friend over it. They can take a break from banging each other for a few hours. But yes not something Id bother with even if she's in the party. Focus on your sister and making it work with what you got

It isn’t your business, though. And you would be way out of line to say something. Your sister is a big girl. She can use her words.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister is getting married October 4. I'm MOH and wedding coordinator. My sister's friend has now decided she's not coming. The reason her long distance BF ( New Zealand) is now going to be in town. We've told her to bring him. But now that's not enough wants to spend every moment with him alone. I really want to tell her off but probably wouldn't do anything.

OP, don't be a jerk. Mind your own business.

[Anonymous]

She kind deserves to be told off, but you shouldn't do it.

[Anonymous]

I had what I thought was a really good friend do this to me. She wasn’t in the wedding party, because I didn’t have one. It was a small wedding. I said to bring him along. She didn’t want “waste a minute of time together.” Turns out, he was married. Yuck. I just stopped talking to her after that. It was pretty easy to see where I really ranked with her, so that was the end of that.

There’s no point telling her off. Your sister will make her own decision. If this is an in-town wedding that requires nothing other than showing up, it’s pretty crappy not to come to a good friend’s wedding.

[Anonymous]

I would point out how often people ditch their friends and support networks for a new romantic interest, often to regret doing so later. If he's not worth bringing to a wedding, why is he worth throwing away a friendship for?

Telling her off seems counterproductive, but telling her some hard facts and honest truths might get through.