If you divorced due to infidelity

[Anonymous]

Did you ever find love and happiness again?
My husband cheated on me serially and here I am separated and on the path to divorce. I feel so unlovable and defective. 😭

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you ever find love and happiness again?
My husband cheated on me serially and here I am separated and on the path to divorce. I feel so unlovable and defective. 😭

It's not you; it's the piece of human trash who you are divorcing.

[Anonymous]

Go to Chumplady.com.

The site owner did.

[Anonymous]

You will be fine OP. My wife cheated on me and I am doing just down today. If you are a good person, someone will recognize your value. It's impossible to stop someone who intend to cheat.

[Anonymous]

SO happy! I tolerated his cheating for years, until I didn't anymore. I thought I would feel lonely, but I actually felt relief. Caring about where he was and what (who) he was doing, questioning my own worth/ attractiveness, while keeping up appearances and maintaining our home and caring for our kids and all the rest was taking a toll I didn't even realize. Turns out I'm great at all the things as long as I don't have that emotional weight. My career took off, my kids responded well to the emotional lightening, my friends rallied around.

As a bonus (I emphasize bonus-- my life would have been vastly improved just by losing those 200 pounds of a$shole) there was one particular friend who became more than a friend, and it's been bliss for coming up on five years now.

Brighter days ahead OP!

[Anonymous]

I'm only a year out, not dating yet, but I am SO SO SO SO happy.

You had a bad partner. His choices and character are not on you. In time, you may reflect on why you chose him or stayed, but the answer may simply . . . you're loyal, or religious, or you thought you were doing what was best for your kids.

Best kind to yourself. You are deserving of all the love. We all are! Especially when we are offering honesty and empathy and consistency, something cheaters can't offer.

[Anonymous]

Did you stay on the same house after calling him out? I am so dead worried..can’t afford to leave and have one high schooler with me. He’s a good dad and a good provider in general and there is no abuse but he will react and not own up..