gf will not stop venting
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Anonymous
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I know I’m going to sound like. Douche but I know most people here are women and I need asvice. I genuinely don’t understand why my girlfriend just doesn’t fix her own issues if she cares enough to vent.
doesn’t like that she’s gaining weight - doesnt exercise Tells me some guy at her work grabbed her tightly and keeps staring at her - doesn’t tell him to back off Says she’s being made out to be the bad guy at her job because some loser went behind her back to her boss to ”tell on her” when said guy is the biggest jerk himself These are her main things she talks about and I have given her solutions yet she keeps complaining. If im being honest these are ”non-issues”. Who cares what coworkers do? I WFH so maybe i just dont get it. I don’t know Should I just nod and listen from now on? |
Anonymous
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I hate people like this.
Always a victim Attention hog |
Anonymous
| She should dump you |
Anonymous
Same. I can't be friends with people like your girlfriend. You have to decide if you can just suck it up and deal with it or if it's a sign that long term it won't work. DHs friend is married to someone like this and their marriage seems miserable. His annoyance with her constant complaining has led to him not being supportive in situations where the complaining is warranted. |
Anonymous
I dated someone like his girlfriend. Everything was always someone else's fault. He whined and whined but made no effort to change things or do anything about it. |
Anonymous
| Find a new gf this is just going to get much worse. |
Anonymous
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You need to tell her that she's being too negative and that this is not an attractive trait. I used to be like this, because I grew up with a mother and aunts who were (and are) very negative. I was able to change when I met my husband, who is a very positive person, and I realized I was just ruminating all the time.
So, she can change, but she has to want to. |