Husband has become so annoying

[Anonymous]

My husband has become so annoying. His sense of humor has reverted to that of a 13 year old boy (lots of fart and butt jokes). I think he’s trying to relate to our 12 year old daughter through these jokes but they are not funny. Neither of us enjoys this potty humor and when I try to nicely explain that’s not how to relate he get defensive. He has always been stubborn and when I suggest things like come clothes shopping with us which is something our daughter likes he refuses. I feel like big rights happening and I do t know how to fix it.

[Anonymous]

I haven't known any men who enjoy clothes shopping. And especially not for kids.

Find an activity where your husband and daughter can bond. How about middle school robotics? Light home repair projects like painting her room a new color or putting up shelves in her closet? Gardening?

At my community center, there's an all-ages sushi making class that would be low stress for any types of people from middle school on up.

[Anonymous]

NP. I might be in a similar situation.

My DH has become more disconnected from DD over the years starting at age 8 or so. It’s like he can’t read the room and then when he does, he pushes in just the wrong way even though he knows it’s make things worse. It’s hard to watch. It almost seems like a kind of intentional self-destruction of their relationship but I would be hard pressed to give proof or even speculate as to why he’s doing it.

DH has always been socially awkward but there’s more going on and I don’t get it.

[Anonymous]

Middle school was a dark time for DD and DH, but now that she’s in college they e reconnected a bit. I think kids go through phases where they view one (or sometimes both) parent as THE WORST and you just have to deal with the phase.