1st grader inappropriately touching kids

[Anonymous]

FTM so I need advice on how to proceed. DS told me that one of his classmates is inappropriately touching him. Obviously at baseline I’ve reported this to the teacher in writing and requested a conference ASAP.

I don’t want to send my child into this environment on Monday before the conference, but I don’t want to send the message that he did anything wrong. If anything, it’s the other child who shouldn’t be allowed to attend until the matter is investigated.

I’m also very worried for the other child. He’s SN and a foster kid…

[Anonymous]

Call CPS. It's very likely that the other kid is being/was abused. The school should be calling CPS, but you should do it in case they don't.

[Anonymous]

Take your kid to the zoo or something on Monday. Nothing wrong with playing hooky once in a while.

Too often in American public schools, trauma impacted kids harm others MANY times before anything is done. If it's ever done.

Buckle up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Take your kid to the zoo or something on Monday. Nothing wrong with playing hooky once in a while.

Too often in American public schools, trauma impacted kids harm others MANY times before anything is done. If it's ever done.

Buckle up.

+1 make sure you make Monday a special treat day to show him you appreciate him telling you things

Make an appt with a therapist for your child. At that age it's play therapy so he will like that too. Therapists are mandatory reporters so they can tell you what you should do too

[Anonymous]

Praise your kid for telling you. Encourage him to tell his teacher loudly any time it happens. "Ms. Geller, Joey is poking me in the butt with a pencil!"

[Anonymous]

I just learned about it after school. I emailed the teacher immediately but it was right after dismissal and maybe she doesn’t check work email over the weekend. Is it unfair to email the principal and guidance counselor with this information before the teacher has had a chance to take action?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just learned about it after school. I emailed the teacher immediately but it was right after dismissal and maybe she doesn’t check work email over the weekend. Is it unfair to email the principal and guidance counselor with this information before the teacher has had a chance to take action?

No. It's serious enough -- for your kid and the other kid -- that admin needs to be involved anyway. The guidance counselor may know things about the other kid that no one else knows.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just learned about it after school. I emailed the teacher immediately but it was right after dismissal and maybe she doesn’t check work email over the weekend. Is it unfair to email the principal and guidance counselor with this information before the teacher has had a chance to take action?

It's not unfair to the teacher but it's the weekend for everyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Call CPS. It's very likely that the other kid is being/was abused. The school should be calling CPS, but you should do it in case they don't.

You're really jumping to conclusions there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Take your kid to the zoo or something on Monday. Nothing wrong with playing hooky once in a while.

Too often in American public schools, trauma impacted kids harm others MANY times before anything is done. If it's ever done.

Buckle up.

+1 make sure you make Monday a special treat day to show him you appreciate him telling you things

Make an appt with a therapist for your child. At that age it's play therapy so he will like that too. Therapists are mandatory reporters so they can tell you what you should do too

Yes. Get an appointment with a therapist who works with kids ASAP. An experienced local therapist may already have experience working with and navigating things with your school district.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Call CPS. It's very likely that the other kid is being/was abused. The school should be calling CPS, but you should do it in case they don't.

You're really jumping to conclusions there.

I'm a lawyer who represents kids in the foster care system. If the kid who touched OP's kid was my client, I would be pushing for him to be referred for a forensic interview.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Take your kid to the zoo or something on Monday. Nothing wrong with playing hooky once in a while.

Too often in American public schools, trauma impacted kids harm others MANY times before anything is done. If it's ever done.

Buckle up.

i was abused relentlessly at a local private when I grew up so you can just forget about your classist assumption.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Call CPS. It's very likely that the other kid is being/was abused. The school should be calling CPS, but you should do it in case they don't.

You're really jumping to conclusions there.

I'm a lawyer who represents kids in the foster care system. If the kid who touched OP's kid was my client, I would be pushing for him to be referred for a forensic interview.

So there's substantial filtering that occurs before kids get to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Take your kid to the zoo or something on Monday. Nothing wrong with playing hooky once in a while.

Too often in American public schools, trauma impacted kids harm others MANY times before anything is done. If it's ever done.

Buckle up.

+1
Another case for private school. At the very least ask to be I'm a different class. They should grant that request. Also, I'd report the incident to CPS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Take your kid to the zoo or something on Monday. Nothing wrong with playing hooky once in a while.

Too often in American public schools, trauma impacted kids harm others MANY times before anything is done. If it's ever done.

Buckle up.

+1
Another case for private school. At the very least ask to be I'm a different class. They should grant that request. Also, I'd report the incident to CPS.

Do some research if you think private school is safe