Why do women "flex" their relationships more than men on social media?

[Anonymous]

I'm not saying that I never see men doing this. However, it's undeniable that women do it more. If her bf is really tall, she might post lots of gym selfies showing their size differential. If he's successful, she might talk about how they're moving to New Haven together so he can attend medical school. I feel like it's the complete opposite with men. I've known attractive men who were in full blown relationships and had no idea based on their social media feed.

[Anonymous]

Men are more competitive at physical activities. Woman are more competitive at life.

[Anonymous]

Women flex everything more on social media. Normal, attractive men don't care about social media. I would be grossed out by a man who actively tended to his social media presence.

[Anonymous]

"catching a man" is a peak goal for a lot of women, and that's a cultural thing, not just an individual choice/dysfunction. Getting married, having a partner, etc. is seen as the ultimate destination for women. Men signal their financial status/job. Same reason, just different manifestations.

[Anonymous]

Because they're more insecure

[Anonymous]

Women are just on social media more than men. I don’t know any straight men who really care about FB, IG, TT etc. It’s not really manly.

[Anonymous]

A guy ruins his chances with other women when he posts about a gf.

[Anonymous]

Men don’t need to. Their hot wife is already posting for both of them. Other men see the videos and immediately are jealous of them.

Also, men don’t care about their wife’s professional success or height. They mostly just want a hot wife, fun wife, and good mother to their kids. My mom and grandma were convinced a good wife cooked well and kept a clean house. But in my experience millennial men don’t care. They know how to cook and clean. They’d rather have a thin wife who can’t cook than a fat wife who does.

[Anonymous]

It's a status thing, many women still believe that being "chosen" by a high status man confers higher status on them. Yes it's retrograde but these ideas are really deeply embedded in our culture.

When people feel the need to flaunt status signals on social media (whether it's their finance bro fiancé or a designer bag) it generally reflects a high level of insecurity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a status thing, many women still believe that being "chosen" by a high status man confers higher status on them. Yes it's retrograde but these ideas are really deeply embedded in our culture.

When people feel the need to flaunt status signals on social media (whether it's their finance bro fiancé or a designer bag) it generally reflects a high level of insecurity.

Only admitting this "out loud" because its Anonymous, but my current bf makes $4M/yr and being "chosen" by him has really upped my self esteem in a way I kind of hate myself for.

[Anonymous]

A lot of you guys are clueless about the female nature. It's not "flex" it's "pride". Women are more nurturing than men and genuinely want a loving relationship. It's a way for them to show that they are happy. Some of the men here just pay way too much attention to how women do certain things. We men are also proud of our fiancees/GFs/wives. We just show it differently. We are not outwardly emotional like women are.

[Anonymous]

Social media like Facebook functions as a community - women are largely creators of community and men consumers or passive participants (don't buy/cook/plan the turkey, just show up to carve). So the husbands/boyfriends have read the posts and star in the posts but aren't making them.

People use Twitter/X more as a soapbox, so men are more active there, but posts are not about personal/family life. More political opinions, sports, rants, etc.

Instagram and TikTok are kind of in-between; half community and half commerce. For the people who post family stuff the breakdown is like FB, and for the people who are shilling products or a lifestyle it's more like X.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A lot of you guys are clueless about the female nature. It's not "flex" it's "pride". Women are more nurturing than men and genuinely want a loving relationship. It's a way for them to show that they are happy. Some of the men here just pay way too much attention to how women do certain things. We men are also proud of our fiancees/GFs/wives. We just show it differently. We are not outwardly emotional like women are.

Excited to have you, a man, explain "the female nature" to me, a woman. Also it's totally unclear to me why a woman would be proud that her DH is tall, that seems like an obviously shallow flex to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Social media like Facebook functions as a community - women are largely creators of community and men consumers or passive participants (don't buy/cook/plan the turkey, just show up to carve). So the husbands/boyfriends have read the posts and star in the posts but aren't making them.

People use Twitter/X more as a soapbox, so men are more active there, but posts are not about personal/family life. More political opinions, sports, rants, etc.

Instagram and TikTok are kind of in-between; half community and half commerce. For the people who post family stuff the breakdown is like FB, and for the people who are shilling products or a lifestyle it's more like X.

Lol, if Facebook is "community" we are doomed.

But FWIW my DH is on Facebook and uses it to keep in touch with college friends and his extended family, and to keep up with news from his hometown, but I am not on FB at all.

[Anonymous]

Definitely. But it's certain kinds of women. Most of my friends don't post at all.