7th grade DS cusses at. Tell teacher?

[Anonymous]

Kids were working in a group project of 2. Other kid called my kid f ing stupid. My kid is super sensitive and just cried to me after school.

If we mention it to the teacher I am afraid the kid will be even worse to my son the rest of year and 6 more years through high school.

If I don’t mention it, I worry about my kid and be bullied even more through the year and won’t tell me since I won’t help him now.

I told him to try and make things nice on Tuesday. To give it one more try and let things cool off.

Anyone been there? Any advice please?

[Anonymous]

Huh. That's a tough one. I hear middle school students swearing like sailors pretty regularly and I'm surprised their parents don't wash their mouths out with soap.

But I agree that if you complain to a teacher that there's a chance you could make it worse for your kid. But since this is a group project situation, it may be worthwhile to tell the teacher what the other kid did and ask if it's possible that the kids each work alone.

[Anonymous]

No, I would not tell the teacher at this age.

Is the project completed? At most, I’d email the teacher and request that your son not be paired with Larlo again, if at all possible, due to an interpersonal conflict. I don’t think the teacher will ask the exact reason. And is not obligated to honor your request of course- but probably will.

[Anonymous]

Nothing to be done about swearing. The issue is calling your kid stupid.

[Anonymous]

I would email the teacher and ask your child do the entire project alone. Tell them what the child said.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, I would not tell the teacher at this age.

Is the project completed? At most, I’d email the teacher and request that your son not be paired with Larlo again, if at all possible, due to an interpersonal conflict. I don’t think the teacher will ask the exact reason. And is not obligated to honor your request of course- but probably will.

^^ this is the correct answer

[Anonymous]

What prompted the comment from the kid? What kind of dialogue was going on?

[Anonymous]

Your kid is going to hear language like this a lot. If your child is empathetic, remind them that kids who speak like this probably come from homes where they hear this kind of language, and where people do not treat each other well.

[Anonymous]

Your kid does need to grow a thicker skin. Most would just answer with a retort and move on.

[Anonymous]

There is middle school language. (Gross)
And there are personal insults mixed with strong language.
This was the second.

This is unfair to your kid and truly, truly overreacting from this other kid. If your kid knows he is not “f ing” stupid then, he can ignore.

Ditto telling the teacher by email that this child should not be paired with yours again (as pp said, unmentioned interpersonal conflict).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your kid does need to grow a thicker skin. Most would just answer with a retort and move on.

+1. I hate to say it OP, but this. A seventh grade boy should not be crying to you about this.

This is not a problem for mommy to solve.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What prompted the comment from the kid? What kind of dialogue was going on?

+1 There’s a big difference between “.you’re f’ng stupid” and “yo, you f’ng stupid bro” is your kid particularly sheltered? Do they have learning challenges? That changes things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is middle school language. (Gross)
And there are personal insults mixed with strong language.
This was the second.

This is unfair to your kid and truly, truly overreacting from this other kid. If your kid knows he is not “f ing” stupid then, he can ignore.

Ditto telling the teacher by email that this child should not be paired with yours again (as pp said, unmentioned interpersonal conflict).

But what about if her kid is?

[Anonymous]

Your kid’s being a puzzy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What prompted the comment from the kid? What kind of dialogue was going on?

+1 There’s a big difference between “.you’re f’ng stupid” and “yo, you f’ng stupid bro” is your kid particularly sheltered? Do they have learning challenges? That changes things.

+1