Do you take time off from work when dh is sick or has a surgery to care for him?

[Anonymous]

Dh very upset and passive aggressive that I didn’t. Has been giving me the silent treatment for 2 days.

[Anonymous]

How serious was the illness/surgery? If he is physically unable to care for himself or if there are responsibilities with the children that need performing that he would otherwise handle, I would 100% take time off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How serious was the illness/surgery? If he is physically unable to care for himself or if there are responsibilities with the children that need performing that he would otherwise handle, I would 100% take time off.

Oral surgery!! Painful but certainly not life threatening. I am doing everything for kids while he rests

[Anonymous]

My DH had gum graft surgery and barely told me what time the appt was. I asked what I could get for him to eat post surgery but that was about it. If he was going under in a hospital of course I'd go/take off. But outpatient dental- weird.

[Anonymous]

If the surgery has him laid up in bed and he needs assistance I’d certainly take the time off. But if he can function and get around I’d go to work and check on him every few hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dh very upset and passive aggressive that I didn’t. Has been giving me the silent treatment for 2 days.

Maybe that's a blessing?

[Anonymous]

What does he need assistance with specifically?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Dh very upset and passive aggressive that I didn’t. Has been giving me the silent treatment for 2 days.

Maybe that's a blessing?

Ha. Yeah, kind of. I’m just so irritated with him right now

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does he need assistance with specifically?

How would I know? He will barely speak to me! He is such a damned baby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dh very upset and passive aggressive that I didn’t. Has been giving me the silent treatment for 2 days.

Which? Sickness? No unless something truly debilitating.

Surgery? Yeah, I am probably home to care for my partner.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dh very upset and passive aggressive that I didn’t. Has been giving me the silent treatment for 2 days.

Maybe that's a blessing?

Ha. Yeah, kind of. I’m just so irritated with him right now

Sounds like he didn't ask for help, had an expectation that he didn't express, and is now giving you the silent treatment because you didn't read his mind. Not healthy- this man needs some communication help.

[Anonymous]

You’re going to end up divorced, OP. The level of contempt you appear to have for each other is unsustainable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH had gum graft surgery and barely told me what time the appt was. I asked what I could get for him to eat post surgery but that was about it. If he was going under in a hospital of course I'd go/take off. But outpatient dental- weird.

In most situations, probably, but my wife needed to take time off when I had dental work to do childcare I'd normally do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dh very upset and passive aggressive that I didn’t. Has been giving me the silent treatment for 2 days.

Maybe that's a blessing?

Ha. Yeah, kind of. I’m just so irritated with him right now

Sounds like he didn't ask for help, had an expectation that he didn't express, and is now giving you the silent treatment because you didn't read his mind. Not healthy- this man needs some communication help.

Ya think? I’ve told him this before. He does not change, and we’ve been to therapy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re going to end up divorced, OP. The level of contempt you appear to have for each other is unsustainable.

I'm sorry to say but I agree.

He sounds like a big f'ing baby who can't express his needs.