Did I overstep (neighbors fighting loudly)
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Anonymous
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…right outside my window. Two adult siblings and their elderly mom fighting about mom’s care. Went on about 15 mins, yelling and all. I had to leave and wait outside for my friend to pick me up so I had to go right past them (brother and sister blocking a walkway). I asked if all was ok (yes) and said I’d be waiting for my friend here and started lingering (because that’s where my house is). They would not leave!!! I finaky sat on a bench next to where they were and then they finally moved and continued their argument. Now I am overthinking, what if they are mad at me and can hurt me in any way (just my anxiety talking probably).
At the same time I am so mad. Why can’t ppl take their business inside. |
Anonymous
| Yeah, they're not mad at you or going to hurt you. Maybe ask your friend to drive you to therapy for your anxiety. |
Anonymous
It’s nbd. I was always afraid of confrontation but have become more assertive lately, though not without overthinking after 
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Anonymous
| You didn’t say anything to them so why would they be mad at you? |
Anonymous
| They don't care about you OP. Not one iota. |
Anonymous
They know I’ve heard and seen them fight (even though what do they expect fighting in public?!) |
Anonymous
| If that had been me, I would have said “hey, can you take this somewhere else?” in a neutral, firm tone. Whenever I have had a similar issue, that’s what I’ve done and it works. |
Anonymous
| You sound insane. |
Anonymous
I hope so. Thanks |
Anonymous
That’s what I wanted to do! But even acknowledging them and saying I needed to be where they were was pretty big for me. I try to stay out of any trouble, esp if ppl look trashy |
Anonymous
Have you thought about getting some help? This is an abnormal amount of anxiety and thought into this and I imagine you're like this in a lot of areas in life. You don't need to live like that |
Anonymous
This. They are in hell right now. Eldercare is hell on earth. |
Anonymous
This. They are not thinking about you. |
Anonymous
| What do you mean by fighting? Some families talk loudly, curse, or otherwise communicate in ways different from you. That may be normal for them. |
Anonymous
| Always tough decisions for elder care. They are not thinking about you or the environment they are in. If you can’t readily grasp that then you need help. |