Do you make casual plans far in advance?

[Anonymous]

Like for a happy hour drink? Or lunch?

I have a friend who does this and it’s not my thing. Not sure if I’m just unusual.

Like ‘oh let’s plan to have a happy hour drink on Tuesday, October 7th’

Fwiw she cancels 80 percent of the time

[Anonymous]

Nope.

[Anonymous]

No.

[Anonymous]

Weird friend. No one makes casual plans that far in advance.

[Anonymous]

I mean, not THAT far. But definitely a month or so out. We're all so busy so yeah, grabbing lunch needs at least a month before we can configure schedules.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I have a friend who's really busy, and sometimes we'll plan dinner two months out. I just put it on my google calendar and forget about it until the week of.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean, not THAT far. But definitely a month or so out. We're all so busy so yeah, grabbing lunch needs at least a month before we can configure schedules.

This. I don't think it's weird to schedule a lunch or drinks a few weeks out. Also not weird to do it spur of the moment but that doesn't work for everyone.

[Anonymous]

Usually I'll say I want to get together, but it might take a few weeks before schedules align. I like doing things in advance, though, because then I can be sure to have child care/shuttling arranged etc. So I don't tend to cancel, and I get annoyed if the other person does.

[Anonymous]

Yes but not October. I assume that’s an exaggeration. But I’m making casual plans for late August right now (6 weeks out-ish).

But I almost never cancel, and when I do it’s because of illness (mine or the kids).

[Anonymous]

With some friends, yes.