IRL do you ever feel like you're about to be outed as a DCUM poster?

[Anonymous]

I live in the DMV in an area full of DCUM types. Sometimes when I meet new acquaintances, particularly fellow parents, I feel self conscious if I say something I've shared on DCUM. For example, when my DC was deciding between colleges I felt like the specific schools and the factors they were considering could have outed me.

Anyone else? Yes, I'm probably just being paranoid. At the same time, I'm met parents that I'm sure are on DCUM - I almost said something once but I feel like it's an unwritten code not to.

I need to start changing details in my posts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I live in the DMV in an area full of DCUM types. Sometimes when I meet new acquaintances, particularly fellow parents, I feel self conscious if I say something I've shared on DCUM. For example, when my DC was deciding between colleges I felt like the specific schools and the factors they were considering could have outed me.

Anyone else? Yes, I'm probably just being paranoid. At the same time, I'm met parents that I'm sure are on DCUM - I almost said something once but I feel like it's an unwritten code not to.

I need to start changing details in my posts.

Trust me - no one cares that much

[Anonymous]

I actually say that I use DCUM. I am not ashamed of that, or of anything I write on this site.

But you are not alone, OP. For some very strange reason, multiple posters over the years have expressed the same fear.

Maybe you all need to work on your confidence?

[Anonymous]

I'm as weird IRL as I am on DCUM which probably outs me. I give zero effs about this. If you don't like my weird, here or out there, feel free to leave me alone.

[Anonymous]

Years and years ago there was a site called the old town patch or the del ray patch, I forget, but I posted on the political stories frequently. And I run pretty conservative. The mod threatened to 'dox' me, publish my IP, and inform my employer that I was posting during business hours. I sued him and won $11,000. I tried very hard to have him arrested for assault but APD would not.

The site has since vanished.

[Anonymous]

I have absolutely deleted a post I was writing thinking that I can see myself saying the same thing in public and didn’t want to somehow out myself as a dcum reader. Why? I have no idea. But I like being part of a fight club.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Years and years ago there was a site called the old town patch or the del ray patch, I forget, but I posted on the political stories frequently. And I run pretty conservative. The mod threatened to 'dox' me, publish my IP, and inform my employer that I was posting during business hours. I sued him and won $11,000. I tried very hard to have him arrested for assault but APD would not.

The site has since vanished.

Wow. Hardcore from both of you.

[Anonymous]

I’m a proud user! And if they know/recognize you, then they’re on here too!

[Anonymous]

Literally never. I am nowhere near you guys and only know two people in the DMV area.

[Anonymous]

Why the embarrassment? It seems very early 2000s to think posting online is nerdy or something.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you are a classic oversharer, OP.

[Anonymous]

I was outed by a close relative once. I was embarrassed and denied it.

[Anonymous]

The mom of one of DS’s friends flat out asked me last year if I posted x thread about one of my kids. I said no since I actually hadn’t, but I didn’t tell her I do post on DCUM!

[Anonymous]

I have a pinned post on one of the forums. I actually tell people IRL to check that out. Not embarrassed at all.

[Anonymous]

A mom friend casually dropped that she got vacation advice on "that DC Moms Site" and I about died. I feigned ignorance.