attending a memorial for past employee

[Anonymous]

The person who last held my position passed away two years ago. The company is holding a memorial in his honor next month, and I've been invited. I would have to travel to the West coast, which is not exactly convenient with school starting up that same week. And - of course - I never knew the person.

Would you go? I feel awkward about this.

[Anonymous]

No, I wouldn’t unless you already have a reason to be out there. Maybe when you decline you can write a sentence or two on how you’ve learned how great this was at the job or whatever.

[Anonymous]

No I would not go.

[Anonymous]

If it were local I’d encourage you to go. But traveling across the country for someone you didn’t know seems excessive.

[Anonymous]

no.

[Anonymous]

The fact that it’s in the other side of the country alone is a good reason not to attend.

[Anonymous]

No. Never. I would no more go than I would if a memorial service were held for a potted plant or a pot-bellied pet pig of the CEO.

I am an employee who appears empathetic and sincere but really does not care who lives or dies at work unless it results in more work for me then I take notice.

I am just there to get money. The less time I have to spend with work-related issues, the better.

I would only go if it would result in a favorable light to receive a promotion or some other benefit. My time is too valuable to bother with non-family/non-close friends being buried.

Heartless maybe, but true.

[Anonymous]

No. It’s two YEARS later, you don’t know them, and that’s all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. Never. I would no more go than I would if a memorial service were held for a potted plant or a pot-bellied pet pig of the CEO.

I am an employee who appears empathetic and sincere but really does not care who lives or dies at work unless it results in more work for me then I take notice.

I am just there to get money. The less time I have to spend with work-related issues, the better.

I would only go if it would result in a favorable light to receive a promotion or some other benefit. My time is too valuable to bother with non-family/non-close friends being buried.

Heartless maybe, but true.

I wonder if you are my boss.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. Never. I would no more go than I would if a memorial service were held for a potted plant or a pot-bellied pet pig of the CEO.

I am an employee who appears empathetic and sincere but really does not care who lives or dies at work unless it results in more work for me then I take notice.

I am just there to get money. The less time I have to spend with work-related issues, the better.

I would only go if it would result in a favorable light to receive a promotion or some other benefit. My time is too valuable to bother with non-family/non-close friends being buried.

Heartless maybe, but true.

You’re not as good with that facade as you think you are. BTW, almost everyone feels this way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. Never. I would no more go than I would if a memorial service were held for a potted plant or a pot-bellied pet pig of the CEO.

I am an employee who appears empathetic and sincere but really does not care who lives or dies at work unless it results in more work for me then I take notice.

I am just there to get money. The less time I have to spend with work-related issues, the better.

I would only go if it would result in a favorable light to receive a promotion or some other benefit. My time is too valuable to bother with non-family/non-close friends being buried.

Heartless maybe, but true.

You’re not as good with that facade as you think you are. BTW, almost everyone feels this way.

No, I am quite good, so much so I wonder if I should have gone to Hollywood for a career. I could win an Emmy I am so good at faking it.

As they say in the working world, Fake it till you make it.”

[Anonymous]

The only way I'm flying across country for a memorial service is if it's someone who is very dear to me (or my spouse). For someone I never even met? That's a hard no.

[Anonymous]

No. I would send a very nice card that acknowledges the deceased person’s service to the company and maybe highlights any legacy they left that makes my inherited position easier/more fulfilling or whatever.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t go. A colleague I was close to died two years ago, but lived across the country. I called him a few times when he was sick, donated to his go-fund-me and the charity he wanted donations to go to when he died, and sent the family a card, but didn’t go to the funeral. Tickets were about $600 so I decided to donate a portion of that to his named charity.

[Anonymous]

No