Friends who invite themselves over

[Anonymous]

We are friends with some of our children’s parents and get together every so often.

One couple-well the wife-usually invites themselves over to our house.

For example, we went to dinner with them last night. Her husband wanted another drink and she said “if you want another drink, we can have it at their house after.”

We had a family party once and she was “walking” by and said “this looks fun so I thought I’d come in and meet everyone.”

What do you do with someone like this?

[Anonymous]

I think I’d say no, if I didn’t want them to come in.

[Anonymous]

Aren’t your children’s parents…. You?

[Anonymous]

“Oh, I’m sorry, that won’t work for us tonight…”

For the walk-by party: “A quick hello would be fine” and usher her out after a few minutes. “We’ll have to get together soon, it was nice of you to stop by and say hello.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are friends with some of our children’s parents and get together every so often.

One couple-well the wife-usually invites themselves over to our house.

For example, we went to dinner with them last night. Her husband wanted another drink and she said “if you want another drink, we can have it at their house after.”

We had a family party once and she was “walking” by and said “this looks fun so I thought I’d come in and meet everyone.”

What do you do with someone like this?

Greet them warmly? What is the issue here?

[Anonymous]

“ we’re having an early night tonight, we enjoyed dinner though”

[Anonymous]

You can try dropping hints & if they do not work then you can try just being blunt.

When the wife suggests drinks at your home you can simply state immediately that you have to get up early the next day or that your house is a mess.

How rude to enter a party that you were not even invited to!!?
I would tell her that it was only for your close family members.

Nip this in the bud right now because if you do not - then things will only get progressively worse later on.

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Learn to say no. She is pushy so you have to push back.

“Sorry, but after-dinner drinks doesn’t work for us tonight.”

“Drinks at your place is a better idea. I’m not up for hosting this time.”

“Thanks for stopping by but this is a family party. I’ll walk you out.” [then hold your arm out in an escorting gesture as you head for the front door] Repeat as often as needed.

If she pushes back, just say, “No, that doesn’t work.” If she asks why, say you don’t feel like it.

[Anonymous]

Unless they have incredibly good qualities in addition to that trait, they wouldn't stay my friends for long.