Judgement question
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Anonymous
| Would you judge a women who got herself another man quickly after the death of her husband? Just wondering! |
Anonymous
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Honestly, I'm a bit surprised by the widow I know that moved on quickly. But who am I to judge? Men move on quickly all the time.
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Anonymous
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Depends...
Was the death expected? Long term illness? Sudden car accident? |
Anonymous
How does that matter? What's the difference between a spouse dying in an auto accident, and a two year cancer battle? Time is the only difference, not sure it makes a difference. |
Anonymous
| Not at all. Why? |
Anonymous
NP: If you know your spouse is going to die you are mentally preparing, possibly talking with the spouse who might encourage you to move on, emotionally distancing yourself, considering your life post-death, etc. I could see someone in that situation dating sooner after a spouse dies. |
Anonymous
With a long term illness, many people grieve prior to the death and the death is the start of the rest of their lives. For a surprise death, the grieving process starts at the death and it often takes more time for a widow/widower to start to live again. |
Anonymous
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My mom had a close friend who died after a long illness and I commented on how fast her husband moved on and my mom said that their marriage was headed for divorce when her friend got sick and he stuck around and took care of her to the end and it was okay for him to move on.
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Anonymous
| Are you asking for ‘a friend’? |
Anonymous
| Honestly yes I would. |
Anonymous
Well, if it's expected she would mourn him from the time it is expected and for a period after he dies. That's a lot of mourning. My MIL died of dementia and in the end I was happy she died because it was so hard for her to live. I can imagine this to be the same for a spouse. In which case moving on quickly makes total sense. That's completely different if they are madly in live he dies in an accident and she's married a month later. |
Anonymous
| Why are so many obsessed with how others are living their lives? Do you just have too much time on your hands? Are they asking you for money? What is the deal? |
Anonymous
| Depends how they killed over. |
Anonymous
| I’ve seen it happen before, but usually it’s the man who moves on quickly. I guess I’d be concerned if we were close and there were kids involved. But otherwise, to each their own. |
Anonymous
| No, because the woman sees up close and personal that life is short. She does not have to spend years of her remaining life going on dates to micro-analyze a man for compatibility. |