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[Anonymous]

I’m feeling particularly thankful for an anonymous forum today where I can ask this.

I just found out I’m pregnant. It will be our fifth child, so I’m an old hat at this. I’m not even late yet (4 days til my period, I only tested because I had an old one and my boobs felt weird).

Today is our wedding anniversary. My husband has been particularly busy with work this year, so we’ve been planning to go out and enjoy ourselves a bit.

Would I be a horrible person for having a glass of champagne or two with my husband tonight? Being so incredibly early in the pregnancy when most people don’t even know, I can’t imagine it would be deleterious.

What do you think? Am I monster? 😂

[Anonymous]

OP: Apologies for the subject line. Toddlers.

[Anonymous]

You’re not a monster. It will most likely be fine but…there is always a chance…

I didn’t know I was pregnant until a bit later and had wine and even smoked a bit. My son is on the spectrum, add and Tourette’s. Most of it genetic but I feel pretty guilty about it. Not trying to make you feel bad. Just sharing my experience.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't.

[Anonymous]

You’re having way too many kids.

[Anonymous]

Why even ask?

[Anonymous]

I just want to throw it out there that with both of you being older now, the chances of your kid having special needs goes up significantly, so adding alcohol is probably not a great idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re having way too many kids.

OP: Eh, we make a lot of money and wanted a big family. For what it’s worth, our oldest is in high school. We spread it out quite a bit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why even ask?

Because realistically, it’s fine.

[Anonymous]

Do you make a lot of money? Or does your husband?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you make a lot of money? Or does your husband?

OP: Husband does well. He out-earns me quite a bit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why even ask?

Because realistically, it’s fine.

+1 a little bit one time is fine.

The guidance is to be on the safe side because different people react differently to alcohol, and some tend to over imbibe. So OP should go based on her own body. Some Europeans drink a little bit of wine while pregnant... again, a little bit.

[Anonymous]

skip the alcohol. you can still have a fabulous time and enjoy yourself. baby deserves the best chance they can have for a healthy brain and body.

not really a big deal to go without alcohol tonight. will be a big deal if baby has some problem and you spend the rest of your life wondering what if. not worth it imho.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re having way too many kids.

😩

[Anonymous]

If you intend to carry the pregnancy to term, you shouldn't drink alcohol. You know you are pregnant. You know there is no safe amount of alcohol to drink while pregnant. Your fetus is developing right now, why would you risk damaging it?