Have you ever woke up and decided you can’t stand people in your life?
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Anonymous
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I’m 58 and I woke up this morning feeling this way-
-Parents who look like they will never die -87 &90 - two adult kids, boy that’s a dunce, daughter spoiled brat. - A Brother, I haven’t spoken to in years. He doesn’t care about his mother. - A spouse self absorbed. I just want out. |
Anonymous
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No, I can’t say I have.
You sound like you might be having an episode. This feeling you are having is neither normal nor healthy. Do you have a mental health caregiver? A good therapist? Call them. |
Anonymous
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Yes. I've had enough.
Are you in your 40's? |
Anonymous
| Only during PMS! |
Anonymous
| This is an Anne Tyler novel. Are you going to move to a small seaside town and start a new life? |
Anonymous
| The children are your fault though. Should have raised them to be more kind. |
Anonymous
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I have felt this way but I'm a little confused because all the people you are annoyed with other than your spouse do not live with you? If you are caretaking for parents I can see how they would be driving you up a wall but if your kids are adults, how much can you possibly see them? And you say you haven't seen your brother in 9 years -- how can you be sick of someone you never see.
I've felt this way from time to time about my spouse and close friends, the people I see regularly. Sometimes it's because they are being particularly annoying for some reason, but usually it's me going through something where I'm just more irritable. I have a good deal of family I have to minimize my interactions with (my dad, my sister and one of my brothers, pretty much all of my in-laws) but that's not that hard to do. I see them, but am able to do it on terms where they won't bug me too much and I keep visits shorter. So none of them get me down too much. |
Anonymous
| TROLL |
Anonymous
| If you think everyone is bad except you, that’s a sign that your problem is inside you. So your next stop should be a doctor, not a soapbox. |
Anonymous
When every one around you is the problem, take a look in the mirror to see the real problem. I suspect you walking away would bring joy to at least half a dozen people’s lives. |
Anonymous
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Got rid of the lousy ones as they were not even part of my family.
My kids, friends and my only sibling are great and very capable people. Parents live abroad and will die abroad. |
Anonymous
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57 and yes. I essentially “married my mother” but didn’t realize it until after my kid was born. My brother is getting more like my mom every year and I have been reducing contact with him. I don’t live near our extended family, but I can tell by the comments they make when I do see them that my brother is telling lies to make me look bad. My parents are no longer living. My kid, whom I love and love spending time with, is not yet an adult. I have so much resentment toward my husband for his $hitty behavior, especially during the thick of our parenting years.
I’m focusing on improving what I can - new job I love that’s a big step up for me, doing things I enjoy on my own, nurturing healthy friendships and distancing myself from others, prepping for divorce after kid starts college - but I fantasize about going back in time and cutting ties with my mom, brother, and husband before we got married. |
Anonymous
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Not quite everyone (I love my DD and am grateful for the handful of friends who have come my way who I love and trust), but yes, a lot of people. I started feeling that way around 44. It’s made worse by realizing that apart from relatives who I really had no choice in, the others in my life who I loathe are there because of my decisions.
I have a lot of regrets and wonder what the inflection points were when I could have seen where my choices were going, but I think that’s only something I can know in hindsight. I admire people who grew up with healthy relationships in childhood and used that as a tool for their future relationships, and I admire those who recognized bad patterns and broke them during their teenage or young adult years. |
Anonymous
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I got divorced and lost my relationship with my parents because XH made up a bunch of blatant lies and they believed him! But after some therapy I realized that I actually don’t like them and feel much freer.
My kids are my favorite people and so I don’t relate to that part. I hope I never feel that way. |
Anonymous
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Did you just suddenly begin feeling this way towards these people (in a true literal sense as your post is titled?) or did these negative feelings progress over a span of time OP?
With me - I usually have bad feelings towards people grow over time vs. just waking up feeling like that one morning. I am very sorry to hear that you are feeling this way. 💔 Hopefully things will get better & you will be appreciated in the manner in which you deserve! *Hugs* |