What’s the best app these days for casual relationships?

[Anonymous]

l am a late 40s woman looking for a casual relationship - but crucially, it actually has to involve good sex, so probably not a one night stand and the men have to actually be, you know, physically skilled and somewhat emotionally intelligent. What’s the best app for this and how to go about it? I don’t really want to waste time or energy or money going out to dinner, etc. My ideal would be a few drinks at a bar to assess the situation then take it from there.

[Anonymous]

Match or POF or Bumble. Might be some newer ones that are better.

Tinder and OKC are the worst/slowest as it's only swiping and you cannot search people in your area, just view what they feed you.

There are also adult oriented ones like Seeking Arrangements.

Just state your intentions in your profile, don't act like you want a relationship-relationship, and that will weed out the men that want to get emotionally close and date.

[Anonymous]

Oh, there's also Fetlife, but it's not really a dating app, more of a "networking" style site.

[Anonymous]

Feeld

[Anonymous]

Hinge and Bumble, but you need to say you are interested in short term.

[Anonymous]

Are you single?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you single?

Yes. I don’t think I’d want to be with someone who is cheating so not looking for someone married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hinge and Bumble, but you need to say you are interested in short term.

Welll … I’m not necessarily looking for short term - more like a FWB situation. I worry that if I indicate short term I’ll find men who just want to get off for a night and not actually have good sex if that makes sense. My theory is that all men in my age range would be open to what I am looking for so I was going to just check every box.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Feeld

+1

Feeld probably presents the most concentrated pool of people you are looking for, but honestly I'm finding lots of men across the apps want NSA or FWB without committing. Though Feeld trends more kinky and poly, there are a lot of men looking for casual fun who are neither kinky nor poly. You can express what you want in your profile. I have to explicitly say no marrieds and no couples.

[Anonymous]

Reddit casual encounters might work

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hinge and Bumble, but you need to say you are interested in short term.

Welll … I’m not necessarily looking for short term - more like a FWB situation. I worry that if I indicate short term I’ll find men who just want to get off for a night and not actually have good sex if that makes sense. My theory is that all men in my age range would be open to what I am looking for so I was going to just check every box.

Simply put this statement in your profile. Easy peasey. Some men would also want that situation.

But you have to understand, you or them or both of you WILL develop feelings doing this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hinge and Bumble, but you need to say you are interested in short term.

Welll … I’m not necessarily looking for short term - more like a FWB situation. I worry that if I indicate short term I’ll find men who just want to get off for a night and not actually have good sex if that makes sense. My theory is that all men in my age range would be open to what I am looking for so I was going to just check every box.

I'm a man and I've been open to what you are looking for. When I used an app, I said I wanted either long term but open to short term or short term but open to long term.

I don't like one night stands. They've happened but not on purpose.

I ended up with some fantastic women who became real friends and also FWB, sometimes over long periods (like a 2-3 years). They weren't really upset when I stopped having sex with them so I could commit to another woman, but they were happy when I became single again. I didn't fall in love with these women but I did like and respect them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hinge and Bumble, but you need to say you are interested in short term.

Welll … I’m not necessarily looking for short term - more like a FWB situation. I worry that if I indicate short term I’ll find men who just want to get off for a night and not actually have good sex if that makes sense. My theory is that all men in my age range would be open to what I am looking for so I was going to just check every box.

I'm a man and I've been open to what you are looking for. When I used an app, I said I wanted either long term but open to short term or short term but open to long term.

I don't like one night stands. They've happened but not on purpose.

I ended up with some fantastic women who became real friends and also FWB, sometimes over long periods (like a 2-3 years). They weren't really upset when I stopped having sex with them so I could commit to another woman, but they were happy when I became single again. I didn't fall in love with these women but I did like and respect them.

Any of the longer term ones I had caught feelings and then were upset when I didn’t want more. They assumed since we had been hitting for so long it meant it was going somewhere. I was clear at the start it wouldn’t go anywhere.

[Anonymous]

If you're a woman, it makes no difference what dating app you use. The same people are on all of them and you will get an overwhelming response on any dating site if you post even one photo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hinge and Bumble, but you need to say you are interested in short term.

Welll … I’m not necessarily looking for short term - more like a FWB situation. I worry that if I indicate short term I’ll find men who just want to get off for a night and not actually have good sex if that makes sense. My theory is that all men in my age range would be open to what I am looking for so I was going to just check every box.

I'm a man and I've been open to what you are looking for. When I used an app, I said I wanted either long term but open to short term or short term but open to long term.

I don't like one night stands. They've happened but not on purpose.

I ended up with some fantastic women who became real friends and also FWB, sometimes over long periods (like a 2-3 years). They weren't really upset when I stopped having sex with them so I could commit to another woman, but they were happy when I became single again. I didn't fall in love with these women but I did like and respect them.

Any of the longer term ones I had caught feelings and then were upset when I didn’t want more. They assumed since we had been hitting for so long it meant it was going somewhere. I was clear at the start it wouldn’t go anywhere.

OP here. I’m not worried about that. Generally the best s*x has been with men I don’t actually like that much as a long term partner 😂 Not sure why but that’s how it has worked out for me in the past.