Over Achieving Cousins

[Anonymous]

Compared to your kids.

Say your kid is a solid B student, non athlete, but pretty great kid all around and their cousin is a straight A /500 scholar getting recruited by several D1 schools.

How do you handle the constant bragging?

[Anonymous]

With kindness. You sound envious. It's OK to be proud of your kids, not sure what part is the "bragging": if the kid has straight As and is getting recruited, it sounds like facts. Sounds like yours is an underachiever perhaps?

[Anonymous]

In our families, there are those who are born with extraordinary brains and bodies, who achieve no matter what, and others, some of whom have learning disabilities or chronic illnesses. We all understand this. It helps that the parents of the highest achiever ALSO have kids with LDs and depression, so the boasting never gets out of hand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:With kindness. You sound envious. It's OK to be proud of your kids, not sure what part is the "bragging": if the kid has straight As and is getting recruited, it sounds like facts. Sounds like yours is an underachiever perhaps?

Ehh, the two overachieving chicks I knew turned into sluts in college.

[Anonymous]

The overachievers in our family have been taught to be humble around friends and family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:With kindness. You sound envious. It's OK to be proud of your kids, not sure what part is the "bragging": if the kid has straight As and is getting recruited, it sounds like facts. Sounds like yours is an underachiever perhaps?

Ehh, the two overachieving chicks I knew turned into sluts in college.

Um. You REALLY sound envious. You can be good with grades and in bed, y'know?! Nothing illegal. You seem to think it's way better if your grades suck and you don't get any either.

It's OK if you're not the best. It's OK if your kid is not the best. But it's immature to tear others down who are better than you. Try being proud of them too if they're family: it has required a lot of work and sacrifices for this kid to get straight As and do sports at the level of being recruited. There are plenty of people who are already envious of him/her. As family, you should be supportive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The overachievers in our family have been taught to be humble around friends and family.

Have the underachievers taught how to be kind and supportive around friends and family?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:With kindness. You sound envious. It's OK to be proud of your kids, not sure what part is the "bragging": if the kid has straight As and is getting recruited, it sounds like facts. Sounds like yours is an underachiever perhaps?

Predictable DCUM response, likely from someone who brags incessantly and can’t stand the idea that she may be perceived as insufferable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:With kindness. You sound envious. It's OK to be proud of your kids, not sure what part is the "bragging": if the kid has straight As and is getting recruited, it sounds like facts. Sounds like yours is an underachiever perhaps?

Predictable DCUM response, likely from someone who brags incessantly and can’t stand the idea that she may be perceived as insufferable.

You sound immature, envious and thinking that it all comes easy. How sad that you cannot be happy for a gifted family member.