Moms of twins

[Anonymous]

Are you cool with your twins having different sets of friends? Are you offended if one twin gets invited to a friend's house if the other twin also knows the friend from school?? Just wondering!

[Anonymous]

I have 12 year old twin girls. Yes we are fine with them having their own friends and encourage it. We put them in different classes at school so they made some different friends and could be their own person. Sometimes they both hang out with a friend too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have 12 year old twin girls. Yes we are fine with them having their own friends and encourage it. We put them in different classes at school so they made some different friends and could be their own person. Sometimes they both hang out with a friend too.

This. Some parents find managing three person play dates difficult (especially if they have other children they have to keep an eye on). And sometimes kids have different friends. It’s not meant to be offensive!

[Anonymous]

Of course I’m fine with it. They are individuals.

[Anonymous]

Of COURSE they can have different friends - they are different people with different personalities. It's FINE if one twin is invited to a friend's house and the other twin isn't. Good grief.

[Anonymous]

It was no problem when they were in elementary school, but nobody ever invited just one of them for a play date when they were in preschool. It’s nice to invite both until they’re old enough to understand that everyone doesn’t get invited to everything.

In elementary school, I wouldn’t worry about only inviting one, and if your child is only friends with one of them, do not feel compelled to get them each a birthday gift if your child is invited to a joint birthday party for them.