Bullying and school enrollmenr

[Anonymous]

My son is asking to change schools and I don’t know what to do. He’s 13. He was bullied badly in 4th and 5th grade. He went to private for 6th and 7th. It’s very small and he has school friends but no real friends.

He wants to go to 8th grade at our middle school. Today, he wanted me to drive him to a local lake to go fishing. He was alone and I did. A lot of kids from the middle school were there. He called me to get him. Some boys were taunting him and pushed him in the lake. There were like 10 of them. He was so humiliated. They are at that middle school and a year younger. I can’t send him there in the fall, right? He just wanted to fish and maybe talk to someone and he was humiliated

[Anonymous]

That is terrible! I’m so sorry for him.

I would agree about not sending him to the public middle school. If he doesn’t have any problems at his current private school, why chance it and send him to a school where the likelihood of him being bullied (again) seems high.

[Anonymous]

He’s lonely at his school though.

[Anonymous]

I would immediately file a police report — for assault.

Do it, OP. Get a copy of your report. You owe this to your child.

[Anonymous]

Try to find another private where there are more kids but absolutely no to public school with the bullies. I wish they had to pay for what they did.

[Anonymous]

I always promise myself as a parent that if my child ever went through something like this, I would not for a second try to help him work through it in the same environment. Frankly, if I were in your shoes, I would up and move New town. kids who have never known him and he can have a fresh start. Seriously.

[Anonymous]

Summer and a here. Come up with the a plan and move. Now.

[Anonymous]

I find it sort of strange that a kid would go fishing alone... ?

But anyway, has he opened up about the incident? If he's aware they go to the middle school, I would imagine he's going to change his mind about going there and you won't have to do anything. Loneliness beats assault. So sorry this is happening to him. I agree about filing a police report. That's serious; he could have drowned. I understand if he doesn't want to though. I hope he talks to you, his other parent, a therapist... someone. That sounds so traumatic.

[Anonymous]

I’m so sorry, OP. That’s really hard. Poor little guy.

[Anonymous]

I’d keep him wherehe’s at and find other things for him to do outside of school. What are his interest?
Does his current school go thru 12th?

[Anonymous]

Absolutely do not send him to the middle school.

I may look for another private school.

[Anonymous]

Poor kid! That’s terrible. Yes to a police report as well. I would either keep in at the same school and try to find more after school activities or look for a different school that’s a little larger. But maybe just keep him at the same school until high school?

(And to the PP above, I use to fish alone as a kid! I lived in a neighborhood in Fairfax that had a lake we could walk to).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would immediately file a police report — for assault.

Do it, OP. Get a copy of your report. You owe this to your child.

+1

[Anonymous]

Troll fail.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find it sort of strange that a kid would go fishing alone... ?

But anyway, has he opened up about the incident? If he's aware they go to the middle school, I would imagine he's going to change his mind about going there and you won't have to do anything. Loneliness beats assault. So sorry this is happening to him. I agree about filing a police report. That's serious; he could have drowned. I understand if he doesn't want to though. I hope he talks to you, his other parent, a therapist... someone. That sounds so traumatic.

It’s not strange at all. My son is 17 and is social but enjoys fishing alone. He finds it relaxing. I think he started around 13 and now even sometimes goes on day trips to fish farther sometimes alone, sometimes with others.

I’m a little confused, is the school with the bullies his current school or a new one? How big is the school?