Parents taking photos of other people's kids
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Anonymous
| My dc are young and they've had a lot of end of year school events. One mom has taken it upon herself to become the photographer and has, by her own admission, taken over 500 photos which she's uploaded (somewhere...?) to share with the group (although the link hasn't been shared with me). This is a violation of our school policy whereby you can take photos of your own dc but not others. We had to sign a form explaining this policy at the beginning of the year. This is upsetting to me because I don't want my dc's imagine on the internet and I don't know the security or privacy settings wherever she's uploaded them. Also, I am there so why does she need to take photos of my dc? I understand if she takes photos of the scene and happens to get photos of other kids in hers and she keeps them on her phone but, deliberately taking individual photos of other people's kids when no one has asked her or given their permission..? Then uploading them..? I just think that's a violation of my dc's privacy and she agreed to the privacy policy when she enrolled her dc. Am I a nut here or is she overstepping? Not even sure how to handle this because the horses are already out of the gate, so to speak. |
Anonymous
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If she does this on school grounds during school hours, then you can complain to the school and remind them for their own policy. We had a parent muscle his way into taking photos year round, for the yearbook, and I hated the way he took pics, but I couldn't say anything, because he had the Principal's blessing.
If it's outside of the school's purview, then you need to take it up with her directly. Photography laws in your state will apply. |
Anonymous
| ^ and no, you are not a nut. |
Anonymous
| Definitely not OK at school with a policy like that (our school has a similar policy). |
Anonymous
| Pp is right. But in answer to your question if you are a nut or if she is overstepping, there are a lot of parents like that of the photographer in your dc’s class. And parents love them because they get photos (and often really great quality ones) of events they can’t attend. And there are a few parents like you who don’t want their child photographed. IME, you are the outlier. Whether you can prevent it depends on where and when the photos are being taken. |
Anonymous
| But what if the parent is taking a picture at a band or orchestra concert? Other kids are in the photo. |
Anonymous
As our public school it was considered fine to take photo and video at the concert, but if you were, say, volunteering at a class party it was majorly not OK. They put it in the volunteer training and it was very enforced by the school culture. Same with field trip chaperones. Occasionally parents would take a picture of their kid and a family BFF or something on a field trip and text it to the other family, but that was about it. Some teachers took photos they put in the class newsletter, and that was how parents got to see what was going on. |
Anonymous
| Taking photos is not a problem. Why would it be? Posting online without consent IS a problem. It’s important to focus on the real issue here. |
Anonymous
OP said the school forbids it. Our district certainly does. |
Anonymous
| There's more to that agreement than "you can't take pictures of other kids" because that's just impossible or very hard to do. Is the agreement that you can't upload the pictures? I think sharing them on a parent WhatsApp group isn't in violation of the agreement, but putting them on Facebook would be. It doesn't sound like you've seen them on social media, right? I don't see the problem from what we've been informed. |
Anonymous
Forbids what? OP isn't very clear. And OP also doesn't know where the mom is posting them, or if at all. |
Anonymous
| Email her and tell her to take anything with your kid's picture down. Even better, call her out by name at the next Parent association meeting. |
Anonymous
Exactly. If I am going to chaperone my kids class for a Zoo field trip then I am surely going to take some photos sheesh. That doesn’t mean that I am posting, sharing or violating the privacy of classmates. |
Anonymous
It very much is when it comes to vulnerable groups such as children. There are a lot of morons who don't understand that plastering kiddie pics on the internet make these kids prime targets for inclusion in pedophile videos, most of which will be taken over by AI. You can take a coupe of good photos, and AI can marionette that person like an actor in a movie. The current safety premise is that you should never trust the accompanying adult to make the right decisions, unless they've had the volunteer training and been background checked. |
Anonymous
Every time I was a chaperone, I took a photo of my group at the beginning so that if a child got separated from us, I knew exactly what they were wearing and could describe them accurately. I never shared the photos. I never needed them, either, thank goodness. |