“If love could have saved you, you would have lived forever”
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Anonymous
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I’ve seen variations of this phrasing used in memorial posts. I am burying my parent and considering using this on a memorial card.
What would you feel as a relative receiving a card with such a quote? |
Anonymous
| Not a fan. |
Anonymous
Op here. Thanks PP. Does it make you feel uncomfortable? Or just is it cheesy? I’m curious as to how people will receive this. Many are in their 60s + . |
Anonymous
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No. I would never use that except for a child. And even then. It's just too... something.
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Anonymous
Chose what you and your family want. No one else matters. That being said, I would chose something your parent loved in life. Excerpt from song lyrics, poem, quote, etc. For my son, we used something kind of cliche, but we didn't think twice about it. It fit perfectly for the message we were conveying and he didn't live long enough to have any favorites in this life. Sorry for your loss. Best wishes in honoring your parent. |
Anonymous
| *choose |
Anonymous
Pp here. I am in my 60s. It's really hard to lose someone you love and the idea that they could have been saved somehow is already on their minds even if the death was expected. |
Anonymous
| Sounds like something people say when they've lost someone to addiction. It's the idea of needing to save someone. It also emphasizes the survivors and their feelings over celebrating the loved one. Focus on what was memorable about them. |
Anonymous
I dunno. Sounds sorta ambiguous, or even snarky, like someone was not loved enough? |
Anonymous
| It conveys how much you loved them. I think it’s just fine. I would never presume to judge how someone who is grieving a loved one expresses themselves. |
Anonymous
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I don’t like it. For one thing, living forever is terrifying. I mean, lived forever at what age?
Plus, most deaths aren’t from lack of “saving.” I guess if it was an accident or illness, maybe. But it’s a lot of playing god for a sympathy card. Not that I think anyone is taking it seriously. I think they’re not really giving a lot of thought at all. |
Anonymous
| I thought this was about a pet. |
Anonymous
| It doesn’t bother me, to me it gets at the real and tragic disconnect between the love one can feel for a person and the reality that no matter how much one loves someone, it’s got an inevitable end date baked in from the beginning. Some prefer not to acknowledge this reality, I suppose. |
Anonymous
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Would you like creative help? Does it need to
be a single sentence or are you interested in poems? |
Anonymous
| It sounds main character. All about them, not the person. |