How do I bring up this awkward concern to MIL?

Anonymous
Hi there mommies! My MIL hasn't been doing great, her husband passed away back in December and it's been hard on her. She hasn't always been able to really take care of herself since then, including health-wise. And that's why what I'm about to describe worries me.

She's been passing gas a fairly abnormal amount. No, I'm not a medical professional, but I did take a couple of pre-med courses in college, and it doesn't seem like something to ignore, especially at her age. DH has mentioned in the past that pretty severe stomach conditions are common in their family, and I'm getting quite worried for her health. I've brought this up to DH, but he just acts like I'm mocking his mother when I'm doing nothing of the sort. I love my MIL and I'm scared. What would you suggest doing?
Anonymous
I would suggest you never EVER address a group of people as "Hi there mommies!" again in your life under any circumstances.
Anonymous
Does she go to a doctor got regular physical check ups? I was able to call one of my parent's doctor's offices and mention something I was due my parent wouldn't bring up but was concerning. Indeed it ended up being an issue that the doc might have missed.

If you could get your husband to call, that would probably be best. They told me "you can leave a message but if you're not an authorized person we can't divulge anything to you." Thankfully my parents doctor had their own voice mail for patients so I could leave a message there.

Tell your husband, you might be right, it may totally be no big deal, but we're not doctor's so let's let the doc decide.
Anonymous
I’m v gassy as I’ve gotten older and I think it’s dairy related. There’s a definite correlation lol.
Don’t say anything OP unless you bring it up in the context of yourself and gas issues.
Anonymous
Maybe a whoopee cushion would help her to see?
Anonymous
Mommies?
Anonymous
Leave her alone. You are cruel.
Anonymous
You already posted about this.
Anonymous
No matter how much YOU are concerned, your husband ONLY mentions. If he's not willing, not concerned, or MIL doesn't take it seriously, YOU as DIL do not mention it to her.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I’m v gassy as I’ve gotten older and I think it’s dairy related. There’s a definite correlation lol.
Don’t say anything OP unless you bring it up in the context of yourself and gas issues.


It sounds kind of like OP has health anxiety and is the type to run to the doctor just because she has gas. That's fine but it's not ok to project that onto other people especially when it's an embarrassing issue and it comes off as concern trolling.
Anonymous
"Good lord, Beverly! Did you have broccoli and beans for lunch again? I thought we talked about this. You smell like a cross between a dying cow and expired Kraft Singles. Pass the peas."
Anonymous
OP sounds like a nutjob
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Hi there mommies! My MIL hasn't been doing great, her husband passed away back in December and it's been hard on her. She hasn't always been able to really take care of herself since then, including health-wise. And that's why what I'm about to describe worries me.

She's been passing gas a fairly abnormal amount. No, I'm not a medical professional, but I did take a couple of pre-med courses in college, and it doesn't seem like something to ignore, especially at her age. DH has mentioned in the past that pretty severe stomach conditions are common in their family, and I'm getting quite worried for her health. I've brought this up to DH, but he just acts like I'm mocking his mother when I'm doing nothing of the sort. I love my MIL and I'm scared. What would you suggest doing?


Mommies? Why do you assume all of us have children? So presumptuous. Anyway, it sounds like your MIL is honestly not long for this earth. Once her GI track starts shutting down, which it sounds like it is doing, the other organs will fail.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:

Mommies? Why do you assume all of us have children? So presumptuous. Anyway, it sounds like your MIL is honestly not long for this earth. Once her GI track starts shutting down, which it sounds like it is doing, the other organs will fail.


The name of this board is literally DC Urban MOMS
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:"Good lord, Beverly! Did you have broccoli and beans for lunch again? I thought we talked about this. You smell like a cross between a dying cow and expired Kraft Singles. Pass the peas."


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