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Anonymous
| Just needing to vent. I feel like everyone I know is too busy to get together often or has other more important priorities. I'm tired of making an effort. Though my invitations are usually accepted, I feel like I'm the only one ever initiating anything. It would nice to be on the receiving end once in a while. I'm not seeking any advice, just wanted to say this somewhere. An anonymous forum feels like the only safe place to do so right now. |
Anonymous
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you know, I sometimes feel like that, and honestly, often it's hormonal. I'll have a couple days of "everyone's leaving me out" feelings and then lo and behold, I will get my period.
NOT trying to minimize these feelings but just thinking about a factor that might affect you. |
Anonymous
| I hear ya! Me too. If I'm doing the inviting, then others are game. But no one else hosts anything, nor initiates getting together. I know we're all busy, but it's not that hard to invite a few people over and BBQ some burgers. |
Anonymous
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Yep, except I just moved here and have no friends. . .
Sometimes I really resent DH for making me move, away from my house (currently living with ILs) my friends, my doctor, my hair stylist, my CSA farm, my DD's awesome preschool, my DD's awesome pediatrician. . .it sucks and it doesn't help that I'm pregnant and hormonal. Just had to vent. |
Anonymous
| I can understand about feeling that resentment, but on the other side of it all, that you have a child already, and another is on the way ... and sounds like you both chose an excellent area (though I know living with ILs can be tough) |
Anonymous
| I feel the same way. Most times, I feel like I am the one initiating getting together, though I'm not a social butterfly. |
Anonymous
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Well - at least they are accepting. I often get "that sounds great, let me check my schedule" and then don't hear back, or an excuse is made, or they pick a date 3 months away. So I am definetly plan B (or C, or D). While I don't like rejection, I'd rather the person respond with a "I'm too busy right now" right off the bat.
So then I get depressed and stop trying, but clearly that doesn't help my social life. |
Anonymous
| Hang in there - I went through this when I moved for my husband's job. Didn't know anyone, thought the wives of his colleagues (also with small children) would be more inclusive but they were sort of a clique and I felt left out. Took a while but I finally did make my own (small) network of friends and settled in to a new life. But I feel for you - it's tough. |
Anonymous
| If one of your children is in preschool invite another parent out for coffee. I feel lonely again b/c my daughter just started at a new school so its all new parents. I formed some friendships at her preschool doing things like coffee, scheduling playdates at parks even going out for dinner. I can't tell you the last time somone invited me anywhere so I know how you feel |
Anonymous
| If its any consolation. I love hanging out with my friends, but for some reason I usually rely on them inviting me out. I think I rely on them to do it to often. Thank you for that. Let me go send out an invite! |
Anonymous
10:59 here. . .thanks for all the kind words. It is tough, DD did just start at a new preschool so hopefully I'll meet some cool moms of kids in her class. I'm thinking of having a b-day party for DD in October and invite the whole class just to have an excuse to meet some parents  Again-living with ILs makes that a little harder to coordinate. . .
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Anonymous
| Maybe you do something to annoy people. Do you, for instance, say nice things about Sarah Palin? |
Anonymous
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I feel the same way. DH is on a business overseas trip for 18 days, my parents and siblings live in another country. Seems like nobody knows how to be supportive. Every time I talk with a family member I hear something stupid.
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