Feeling rushed and overwhelmed

[Anonymous]

I got engaged after 1 year and married 3 months later. We got pregnant right away after getting married. I’m very happy but feeling overwhelmed and rushed. Things are moving very quickly with so much to do. I think my husband is also feeling the rush. How normal is this?

[Anonymous]

Normal but are you sure you’re happy?

[Anonymous]

Seems like rushed is the wrong word since you got pregnant intentionally? Or maybe you weren't intending to get pregnant so quickly, in which case things could feel rushed.

Maybe you feel overwhelmed by so much change in your life. If so, then I can see being overwhelmed.

Either way, you need to focus on the idea that these are good changes and what you've been planning for.

[Anonymous]

Really depends on your age. At 22-25, this would feel super rushed. At 30, not so much.

I knew many women who met, married and had 2-3 kids within 5 years after age 30. One friend met her husband at age 34 and they were married at pregnant by 35. She had 4 kids from age 35-41.

[Anonymous]

Why’d you rush the wedding and pregnancy? That was bad timing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seems like rushed is the wrong word since you got pregnant intentionally? Or maybe you weren't intending to get pregnant so quickly, in which case things could feel rushed.

Maybe you feel overwhelmed by so much change in your life. If so, then I can see being overwhelmed.

Either way, you need to focus on the idea that these are good changes and what you've been planning for.

We intentionally got pregnant but we didn’t expect on the first try. I’m overwhelmed with just getting over wedding planning and now having to plan for a baby. We just bought a home and have to set that up while feeling not so well from pregnancy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why’d you rush the wedding and pregnancy? That was bad timing.

We were ready to get married. We felt it right and decided why wait? We both wanted a family and I’m 33 and he’s 37 so we didn’t want to wait.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Really depends on your age. At 22-25, this would feel super rushed. At 30, not so much.

I knew many women who met, married and had 2-3 kids within 5 years after age 30. One friend met her husband at age 34 and they were married at pregnant by 35. She had 4 kids from age 35-41.

I’m 33 and he’s 37. It felt right to get married and we wanted kids.

[Anonymous]

At 33 and 37, just know that you are doing the right thing. You would probably feel overwhelmed not matter when you got pregnant because there is so much to do. And if you hadn't gotten pregnant quickly, you might have been stressed that the clock was ticking.

Your hormones are exaggerating everything. Just try to feel happy that things are working out.

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At 33 and 37, just know that you are doing the right thing. You would probably feel overwhelmed not matter when you got pregnant because there is so much to do. And if you hadn't gotten pregnant quickly, you might have been stressed that the clock was ticking.

Your hormones are exaggerating everything. Just try to feel happy that things are working out.

Good luck!

I’m a very happy overwhelmed. We had wedding planning ( very large wedding), now trying to set up our home, and then trying to prepare for baby.

[Anonymous]

Really wanted to baby trap him eh? High earner?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Really wanted to baby trap him eh? High earner?

What? No. We both wanted kids right away. We are both relatively high earners.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Really wanted to baby trap him eh? High earner?

How did I baby trap him if he wanted kids and decided not to use protection? Such a dumb statement.

[Anonymous]

How far along are you? You have plenty of time to prepare for baby if you’re still early in your pregnancy. Babies don’t need much. Your house doesn’t have to be perfect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I got engaged after 1 year and married 3 months later. We got pregnant right away after getting married. I’m very happy but feeling overwhelmed and rushed. Things are moving very quickly with so much to do. I think my husband is also feeling the rush. How normal is this?

Being ungrateful is very normal. You two aren't abnormal. Just practice gratitude for how things are just falling on your plate without any yearning. As far as being overwhelmed goes, unless someone forced you to get married and have unprotected sex, you had control on your time line but you didn't use it.