Nesting for first year of separation/divorce

[Anonymous]

Can anyone speak to their experiences about it? Have older teens, and would like for them to have consistency of their house until they go to college. Marriage is almost done, we both resent each other and it's gotten toxic. I have a lawyer. Thanks, I appreciate your responses.

[Anonymous]

Are they both headed to college next year? If not, seems like a lot of transitions (nesting, then two houses, then college) in a short timeframe.

Also if they don’t live there before college it will never be “home” even a little.

[Anonymous]

Agreed on living in the parent's new home before college. My DH and his ex both moved right after she graduated and she felt entirely displaced.

I think I'd lean toward one spouse staying in the family home and the 2ns spouse keeping a bedroom for the child in the new home, but not forcing it.

[Anonymous]

I think it could work for you.

We did it for about half a year with young kids. Bc they were young and we camouflaged the separation, we got a Airbnb 2 minutes away and went in and out of the house pretty much every other day.

I don’t recommend that. I felt like I was living out of my car. You could be fine going in and out of the house every other week for a year.

You could probably help the kids adjust during that time by getting them used to the idea of another home, and maybe having them pick new things for their room. Is one of you keeping the house?

[Anonymous]

I did it. It worked fine. Doing it again. Easier than switching houses.