Private practices

[Anonymous]

Our daughter’s GA team holds extra private practices every week for only certain kids. Do other clubs do this? I have never seen this before on any club. They don’t alternate players, they only have their special players come out, and give them an extra practice every week. These girls also get selected for everything, they also play 80 min of every game. This club has really divided the team. These girls now think they are “better” than the other girls. They now only go out for dinner with the other girls in their click at away weekends. The coaches created all this drama.

[Anonymous]

Favoritism you say? Funny, I heard that about an ECNL club and the USYS one down the road.

Actually, usually private practices are when people pay extra -- although usually it's not the head coach (at least at the more professional clubs).

[Anonymous]

Really? Mention the club.. expose them so others are aware of this unacceptable behavior

[Anonymous]

I don’t doubt that this happens. Most of the reputable clubs will not allow the current coaching staff to train kids on their team outside of standard practice in order to prevent this sort of situation. However, does your child want the extra work? Have you asked the coach how your child can be included? If there is no pathway to inclusion, there is a problem.

The “in” kids behavior is snobbish and elitist and should not be permitted but that is life. Your child can learn from the experience.

I would directly address the coach and the club. If no resolutions, you know what to do.

[Anonymous]

i didn't know GD was coaching GA teams

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our daughter’s GA team holds extra private practices every week for only certain kids. Do other clubs do this? I have never seen this before on any club. They don’t alternate players, they only have their special players come out, and give them an extra practice every week. These girls also get selected for everything, they also play 80 min of every game. This club has really divided the team. These girls now think they are “better” than the other girls. They now only go out for dinner with the other girls in their click at away weekends. The coaches created all this drama.

This is more common than you think. Which club? Sounds a lot like BP’s teams but he’s not in GA anymore.

[Anonymous]

Jesus. That is beyond toxic. Find a new team asap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t doubt that this happens. Most of the reputable clubs will not allow the current coaching staff to train kids on their team outside of standard practice in order to prevent this sort of situation. However, does your child want the extra work? Have you asked the coach how your child can be included? If there is no pathway to inclusion, there is a problem.

The “in” kids behavior is snobbish and elitist and should not be permitted but that is life. Your child can learn from the experience.

I would directly address the coach and the club. If no resolutions, you know what to do.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jesus. That is beyond toxic. Find a new team asap.

Our DC was singled out and excluded from specialized training for the team. We left and have been better since.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t doubt that this happens. Most of the reputable clubs will not allow the current coaching staff to train kids on their team outside of standard practice in order to prevent this sort of situation. However, does your child want the extra work? Have you asked the coach how your child can be included? If there is no pathway to inclusion, there is a problem.

The “in” kids behavior is snobbish and elitist and should not be permitted but that is life. Your child can learn from the experience.

I would directly address the coach and the club. If no resolutions, you know what to do.

It is not paid extra training. The club chooses their favorites and holds extra practices for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t doubt that this happens. Most of the reputable clubs will not allow the current coaching staff to train kids on their team outside of standard practice in order to prevent this sort of situation. However, does your child want the extra work? Have you asked the coach how your child can be included? If there is no pathway to inclusion, there is a problem.

The “in” kids behavior is snobbish and elitist and should not be permitted but that is life. Your child can learn from the experience.

I would directly address the coach and the club. If no resolutions, you know what to do.

It is not paid extra training. The club chooses their favorites and holds extra practices for them.

Even if it was paid, to exclude certain team players is absurd. Are coaches looking to drive people out of soccer?

[Anonymous]

The club is Rochester. It’s not extra paid for training. The director along with the coaches choose their favorite girls, and holds extra practices just for them. We all pay the same for the season, but certain girls get extra attention.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The club is Rochester. It’s not extra paid for training. The director along with the coaches choose their favorite girls, and holds extra practices just for them. We all pay the same for the season, but certain girls get extra attention.

I know nothing about this club, but I would run far far away from this type of coach. Especially with girls, this will breed such a terrible team culture that the team itself will fall apart eventually. Anyone coaching girls like this should be ashamed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The club is Rochester. It’s not extra paid for training. The director along with the coaches choose their favorite girls, and holds extra practices just for them. We all pay the same for the season, but certain girls get extra attention.

I know nothing about this club, but I would run far far away from this type of coach. Especially with girls, this will breed such a terrible team culture that the team itself will fall apart eventually. Anyone coaching girls like this should be ashamed.

RNYFC

[Anonymous]

I'll tell you what. THIS happens pretty much at every club to some degree, only this is an extreme example. If not within a team, like yours, it's done with players who get asked to play on higher teams.

In either case, the critical question is that extra play/opportunities fairly earned?