Favor friends? Do you have friends who constantly ask for info, advice, etc?
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Anonymous
| It gets exhausting. One friend always wants this info to be delivered via a phone call- she is strangely paranoid about putting things in writing - and between work and kids, I’m just too spent to get on the phone at night. I’d be happy to text for a minute or two when it’s convenient for me, but she always pushes ‘can you chat? I’d really like to talk about this, not text’. |
Anonymous
| I don't mind being asked for advice, but I also have a friend who only wants to talk about the advice and not text or email. I just can't. I sometimes ignore her requests, honestly. I can't with the paranoia. Your employer doesn't care that you're job searching. And they definitely don't care that you're asking me what to put in your cover letter. Please just chat about this on signal with me. |
Anonymous
| She wants you on the phone because it’s harder to say no on the spot. Just tell her you can’t talk today and if she needs to ask something, it has to be by text. I know these people too well. |
Anonymous
| I like helping people but don't do unnecessary phone calls. Texts are preferable but email and voice memo are acceptable alternatives. I would just tell her that these are her options if she needs my help. I can only do calls if its an emergency or something major. |
Anonymous
| I'd rather a quick phone call then a rapid texts for hours or texting for days for the same issue. Ugh. Get it over with with a quick call. |
Anonymous
| You do realize you can ignore texts until you want to read them, correct? |
Anonymous
| If she asks if you can chat, say no, you are too tired to get on the phone and prefer to text. You are equal partners in the relationship with equal claim to your preference. Her preference does not trump your preference, and if she can’t go along with how you want to do it, then she will lose out. Just tell her no, you don’t want to get on the phone. Be honest and straightforward, and start putting your own needs before hers, especially since she is asking you for a favor. |
Anonymous
You are in the minority these days |
Anonymous
No, I had absolutely no idea. Thank you for this profound comment. |
Anonymous
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Some subjects are easier discussed vs. texted.
In my opinion at least. Though I am old (56) and spent the majority of my life talking on the phone vs. typing on it so I take this into full account. Lol. |
Anonymous
| It's my anxiety, it's watching over me. I don't have friends with anxiety. |
Anonymous
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Yes. It's exhausting and over time kills friendships as all you end up discussing in their life .. Ehhh |
Anonymous
| Your subject line has nothing to do with what's in the first post. Is the problem the advice seeking or the phone preference? |