Help! Teenage DS just asked for an electric razor so he can shave his pubic hair!

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[Post New]09/19/2010 00:10
Anonymous
OK. Fall Sports just started and he is on a team with 15 and 16 yr olds. Some of them shower in the locker room. DS does not. He says he is too shy right now to do that. But then he drops this bombshell on me. I asked him if the other guys have shaved down there and he said yes, he doesn't want to look weird. I tried to be a cool cucumber and tell him he could trim it close with scissors then use his razor. I am assuming he just wants to shave the hair above the penis. Does anyone know if this is a fad right now?
[Post New]09/19/2010 01:48
Anonymous
yes this is what the kids are doing now (parent of 3 boys teens who tell their mom everything even when she'd rather not know)
[Post New]09/19/2010 04:41
Anonymous
Why do you care what he does down there? As long as he cleans the cutting implement with alcohol to prevent infection it doesn't matter in the least.
[Post New]09/19/2010 09:45
Anonymous
Well. They may be doing it to facilitate BJ's from our very jaded generation of teenage girls. The teen girls have been doing this casually since the time of the whole Monica Lewinsky thing (I know some girls have always been casual about this!) But it is a degradation for young girls to be doing this outside the context of a seriously committed relationship and it is heinous that girls in our culture are treating this as like a regular part of making out.

That said I have 2 boys and a girl and I am raising them to understand that a girl who does this to them casually is NOT the sort of girl they should regard as having much self respect.
[Post New]09/19/2010 10:07
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Well. They may be doing it to facilitate BJ's from our very jaded generation of teenage girls. The teen girls have been doing this casually since the time of the whole Monica Lewinsky thing (I know some girls have always been casual about this!) But it is a degradation for young girls to be doing this outside the context of a seriously committed relationship and it is heinous that girls in our culture are treating this as like a regular part of making out.

That said I have 2 boys and a girl and I am raising them to understand that a girl who does this to them casually is NOT the sort of girl they should regard as having much self respect.


To be honest, this is one of my concerns. We've had lots of talks about sex and relationships but I haven't addressed this one in such detail. My other concern is that he is now internalizing "beauty" messages that we worry so much about with out girls. I'd really like him to focus more on schoolwork!
[Post New]09/19/2010 10:42
Anonymous
I don't think failure to buy him a razor will lead to greater focus on his schoolwork.

Think of the discussions on this board about what is gross and not gross regarding our own pubes. If looking like his friends will get him into the shower, then buy the darn razor.
[Post New]09/19/2010 11:01
Anonymous
OP, congratulations on having that kind of close relationship with your son. Just get him the razor. They're his pubes, so he should be able to do with what he wants.

Keep lines of communication open re: sex/oral sex.
[Post New]09/19/2010 11:55
Anonymous
He really asked you and gave you this reason? He couldn't have bought it with money saved up from B-days, Christmas etc or allowance on his own or said it was for facial hair? Is it for him?
[Post New]09/19/2010 12:42
Anonymous
I must admit, the idea of kids grooming themselves for BJs is kind of appalling to my middle aged self.

However, I wonder -- if he's so shy that he won't undress in the boys' locker room, is there a chance, really, that a girl will be giving him one in the near future?

I agree with others -- allow him to make his own grooming decisions and keep the conversation going with regard to sex. Also discuss respect for girls and himself.
[Post New]09/19/2010 13:25
Anonymous
I have a teen DS and he has not asked for an electric razor. If yours wants one for pubes then maybe he's being bullied or gets random BJ's and has hair in unusual spots.

This request is freaky.

With some groups of guys and girls - not many- the whole casual BJ/intercourse culture is active. Not with most.
[Post New]09/19/2010 16:50
Anonymous
OP here - not sure if I feel better or not now. I will get him the razor and have some serious discussions about girls and BJ's.
[Post New]09/19/2010 20:10
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:OP here - not sure if I feel better or not now. I will get him the razor and have some serious discussions about girls and BJ's.


13:25. Since he's a younger kid with older ones please make sure they are not hazing him by this expectation. Asked my DS and he was what are you reading? DH said is he gay? Please make sure he isn't being hazed.
[Post New]09/19/2010 20:33
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I have a teen DS and he has not asked for an electric razor. If yours wants one for pubes then maybe he's being bullied or gets random BJ's and has hair in unusual spots.

This request is freaky.

With some groups of guys and girls - not many- the whole casual BJ/intercourse culture is active. Not with most.


PP- I hope you are right. Anything else is beyond belief upsetting, because I have no idea how you can stop it.
[Post New]09/19/2010 21:00
Anonymous
OP -- info here on trimming public hair -- recommends electric trimmer

http://www.askmen.com/dating/love_tip_150/159_love_tip.html
[Post New]09/19/2010 21:07
Anonymous
shaving exposes more so an erection looks a 1/2 inch longer.
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